A bit of background: South Asian Male, Canadian, 5'6" (yeah I know I'm short), athletic (college powerlifting), 26

The first issue: what the heck do I do after getting her number?

So growing up, I had zero experience whatsoever with women and my culture is to blame. Parents / family say "girls are bad" then when you're old enough ask "so when are you getting married?"

I straightup did not know how to interact with women and, the fact that I grew up in a different culture only complicated the matter. South Asian girls are different from White girls, who are different from Middle Eastern or Asian or w.e. you get the point.

At first I couldn't even talk to women at all. I was all like "hurr durr my life sucks I'm short, dark, ugly, blah blah" all this bullshit inside my head - none of which women even noticed. Because I never bothered to even try, I started overthinking things and making up my own fantasies.

I cut all that bullshit off 2 summers ago when, I interned in another city for the summer and decided "fuck it, I'm just going to be myself, do whatever i want, and approach whoever i want" and, surprise! It actually worked. I was actually surprised by how easy it is to approach women ever since one of my brown friends taught me a rule.

His rule was this: girls that are 8-10/10 are generally accustomed to dudes approaching via DMs while being too intimidated to approach in real life, so if you approach in real life and just be genuine, you're more likely to stand out.

I was strategic about it. If I met a girl once or twice, I'd ask her for her number. If she mentioned a bf or w.e. then I'd just move on or keep her as a friend (and that only if we actually had common interests). All in all, I had no issue getting even the hottest women's numbers at the office, at parties, etc. But here's where things got confusing.

What exactly do you do after getting a girls number in order to escalate? I tried a variety of approaches with mixed reactions so I'm not quite sure what the "rules of thumb" are after obtaining the number.

Like, if I saw them regularly in-person I had no issue asking them out, going on dates, etc. But I just dont get the steps for doing it via texts or phone.

For example, do you text her the next night just saying your name? Do you call her? If you text her your name, do you followup with attempting to make plans a week later? Or do you wait for her to initiate? What kinds do back n forth have you guys done that has or hasn't worked?

Second problem: where I live it's quite diverse. Girls of different backgrounds (White, Asian, Middle Eastern, etc.) Expect different approaches here and most of these reddits by default sound like they're just considering American white girls (correct me if I'm wrong, guys/girls) so I was hoping to get an idea of how yall approached different-cultured women and what you might've tried that worked for you.