Hung out with a girl and she ghosted me after. Deleted her Snap and she messaged me a week after. Did I respond the right way+should I say anything else?

2019-09-09T01:01:03+00:00

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2019-09-09T04:13:24+00:00

Seems to me that she only responded because you deleted her Snapchat. People don’t seem to like your response here, and maybe it wasn’t the best. To be honest, I don’t think it would have gone anywhere either way. She wanted your attention but didn’t seem too eager for anything further.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-09-09T04:20:27+00:00

Hung out with a girl and she ghosted me after. Deleted her Snap.....

Ghosted you and you held up your standards and self-respect.

You don't sound out of line here.

....she messaged me a week after.

She apparently has revitalized interest because you started ignoring her. So let's recap:

She failed to respond for a week to a normal message.
She "got interested" after you unfollowed her on a social media platform.
She gaslit you a bit there, saying it was harsh when you were just being clear.

Her interest is not based on who YOU are. If that were the case, she wouldn't have ghosted you.

Her interest is based on her own validation. She seems to see the interaction as worthless unless it's dysfunctional and she has to bend over backwards to "make" someone like her who doesn't seem interested.

If you want casual sex, you can seek it with people who don't ignore you for a week or otherwise play games. There's nothing wrong with cutting people off who want to waste your time.

Did I respond the right way+should I say anything else?

You make the odd case here that you perhaps shouldn't have responded as clearly, as if you have self-respect or boundaries. And even stranger or sadder, you respond as if this girl should still be under consideration, after she revealed herself to be lame and only attracted when you pulled away.

This won't stop, you know. Game doesn't change a girl into a different person. You could do all the "right things" to get a lot of different girls. The question is whether you're getting with a girl that requires you to do unhealthy things.

// "Sounds like you took her "ghosting you" too personal. I find it best not to be bothered by that type of behaviour....."

The common thought we often see, even among some PUA coaches, is that girls should never be screened out, and whatever she does, you should always be thinking of the angle to get in there or you've "fucked up."

This thinking easily leads to guys wasting their energy trying to get at girls just because they make shit difficult, even if they don't even really like the girls or respect themselves for doing what it takes to get at said girls.

It's pointless because there are girls who will not disappear for a week without at least some reply. It just takes a few seconds to throw even a few words into a reply.

A few days being unresponsive is one thing, but as ubiquitous as social media access has become, the claim that she somehow couldn't respond sooner than a week, is silly.

2019-09-09T02:01:22+00:00

Harsh, but reasonable. Your time is as valuable as any bodies, dont let anyone think they're above you.

2019-09-09T04:20:17+00:00

Yeah nice one. Thing is, if you still want her, you kinda closed the door.

She might become a bit desperate, but at that point she's just an infatuated thot which I doubt you want.

Funnerer92 · 2019-09-09T04:25:12+00:00

Bro it looks like you just stood by your own standards and there's nothing but respect for that. Keep it up my man!

Napalm_in_the_mornin · 2019-09-09T04:33:58+00:00

I mean... define “hung out”. Was it a casual date? Without knowing what you text or snapped her, it’s hard to tell how bad of a ghosting it was. I’ve gone a week without talking to a date and we pick it back up pretty quickly if we both understand we’re busy adults.

Deleting someone from snap also seems a little petty after just a week, IMO.

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