How do I bounce back after my 9/10 gf dumped me?

pnadlerlaw · 2019-09-24T15:28:03+00:00

Jeez. What is there to bounce back from?

Idg this mentality. You were dating a 9/10. The end.

You go back out there and keep dating. Do you have any idea how women work? Just date. ABD. Always be dating. Whether she’s an 8/10 or not, women don’t focus exclusively on looks.

Women have no idea how another girl is sexually, what other value she’s bribing to the table, or how you, subjectively value one woman’s looks over the other (within the 7.5 to 9.5 range. Seriously.

Women who are a 9+ are so self-critical and hyper aware of their looks, that there is never such a thing as “good enough.” There is always something wrong with them, imperfect, something that could be better, something they wish was different, something they see in other women and feel they lack or wish they had.

Enter the fashion and make-up industry, irritating these insecurities and then turning around and selling women the snake-oil cure to their emotional pain. “Her man,” for the most part, is just another emotional comfort device. A 7/10 man is emotionally safer and more secure than a 9/10 man ... for a 9/10 woman.

He’s seen as:

less likely to cheat on her or leave her for someone better looking;
more likely to appreciate her;
less likely to take her for granted;
obviously more likely to allow her to feel like the better looking one in the relationship.

Just keep dating. Keep it casual, but keep dating. 9+ women are at least 1% of the population. That’s a fuck ton of women. So, just keep dating and if a 9+ is that important to you, you can always branch swing. Otherwise, you may just realize that a 9+ is really not that important to you, compared to a 7-8 who has like 9++ value to add on the bedroom and in terms of how she dresses and takes care of herself regularly.

echica1213 · 2019-09-24T15:10:26+00:00

If all you focus on is looks, all they’ll focus on is looks, and as you’ve stated, that math doesn’t particularly work out. Nobody just wants to date someone who just wants to date someone pretty.

rodnue · 2019-09-24T15:10:50+00:00

If you got one you can get another

hunterpua · 2019-09-24T15:51:12+00:00

You're not gonna start regularly getting girls as beautiful as your ex until you really get used to hot girls.

Its clear that looks are a really big deal to you from the fact that you're worried about getting another 9/10-above.

That means you still look up to these girls instead of look at them as what you're supposed to be having.

So what I suggest is that you go out to a night club, look for the hottest girls you can find and friendzone the fuck out of yourself with them.

But don't just become a guy who hangs around them who they emptily call "friend". Become a real friend, someone they would ride or die for and watch how they open up a whole network of hot girls to you.

This is 100% sincere friendship we're going for here, its not some sort of tactic to eventually sleep with them, your goal with these girls is friendship now and forever.

And since you'll only be friends with these girls its 100% acceptable to go and be talking to them about girls who are your type, to really be explicit about it, down to the most minute detail like describing how your perfect ass would be one that doesn't fold into their thigh but instead creates a smooth curve at the point where the ass meets the back of the thigh.

You'd never say this to girls who you're secretly trying to fuck because you'd be afraid that they'd think of you as a pervert but with real legit friends you wouldn't give a shit if they think of you as a pervert.

Guess what else legit female friends who are insanely hot do for you...

They set you up with other girls.

Girls naturally like playing the matchmaking game and as long as you're a cool guy who isn't gonna embarrass them and you're a real friend to them they will be very happy to throw girl after girl your way, giving you the best first impression you can get, certainly better than any pictures or bio you can come up with on online dating.

These girls will literally sing your praises to the girls they set you up with and coming from them, ridiculously hot girls in their own right, it means much more so when you meet the girls they set you up with they already think you're an amazing guy.

And how do you do this?

Literally just ask for it.

Just ask your hot female friends after describing your ideal type if they know someone they can introduce you to that fits the description and watch them work their magic.

As long as you're being a real friend you'll be invited to parties with hot girls and get constantly introduced to hot girls and that's a damn good way to get used to them.

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ToTheBatmobile_ · 2019-09-24T14:44:48+00:00

Well don’t focus so much on looks

photomediaguy · 2019-09-24T18:13:25+00:00

Behind every 9/10 or 10/10 there's someone who's absolutely fed up with their crap. 9/10 and 10/10 girls have only ever heard how hot they are, how sexy they are, and guess what? They get dumped too. They are more self-critical and self-doubting than others. Also, she may be a 9/10 to you, but a 5/10 to someone else. Looks are so subjective and superficial, so maybe stop fixating on looks, & start appreciating common ground, having fun, and how a person can make you feel about yourself when you're with them! I've dated all types of women, and have had better experiences with less than 9/10s. Keep breathing, and take each day as it comes.

LameLord · 2019-09-24T18:41:29+00:00

there are other good things about me I’m sure, but not things you can see right away.

If you ever want other people to see you for more than your looks/money then you need to be able to offer the same. This mentality you’re cultivating is going to lead you through a lot of shallow ass relationships and you’re going to have no one to blame but yourself.

This may be nbd to you if all you want is to bang some hot chicks, but you’re going to wake up one day and wonder why all these people are choosing not to keep you around in their lives, and it’s going to be because the only thing that you were able to see in them is their looks.

pro tip? Everyone sees pretty girls for their looks, it doesn’t make you special or desirable to desire beautiful women, it makes you just like every other person without great looks or big money.

neeechan · 2019-09-24T22:38:45+00:00

9/10? Then go and look for a 10/10 king. But beware. If a female is 8+, they know what they are capable of. They know the power they have.

Pinstripes2019 · 2019-09-24T14:37:19+00:00

I think you need to hope that a 7.5 is willing to round down...

Title	How do I bounce back after my 9/10 gf dumped me?
Author	trev3795
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Date	September 24, 2019 2:33 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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