Just a quick thought on dependence. The need to be validated by women stems from not knowing oneself.

Developping oneitis and becoming needy and angsty signifies the activation of dependent relationship patterns which likely have been implemented during childhood and not been dealt with. Stabilizing oneself by dating other women proves to be only a symptomatic cure.

The pain of dependence is the fear of being nothing and no one without mom. This is a strong projection that will be cast upon any woman until one has learned to truly understand and care for oneself, forming the life that one is supposed to form by one's own hands.

So every time you feel the pain of dependence you should be thankful, as it is an open door that invites you to be yourself.