girl i was orbiting on school came back, what to do?

abdada · 2015-04-17T19:52:16+00:00

She lost her emotional tampon and figures she can blood her alpha fucks story into your ear all night long.

Do not be her school companion. Do not be anything for her.

[deleted] · 2015-04-17T20:32:57+00:00

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fnordsnord · 2015-04-17T20:34:48+00:00

First dude - check your delusions. If you ACTUALLY didn't give a fuck, you wouldn't be writing for advice. Look at it square in the face: somewhere, you've still got attraction for her. There's nothing wrong with that; she's HOT. Accept it, own it, and deal with it.

Now, onto what's probably going on. One of the things that's a little misleading around here is how women are "disgusted and repelled by betas," especially during their peak SMV.

They're generally not. Not really. It's only when they discover that betas unworthy of their poons have expectations that they might someday get SEX that they get upset.

You see, women, even 20-something hotties DO value beta-orbiters. Imagine that you're a hunter with a good retriever. You shoot the duck, the dog jumps into the cold, slimy water, goes and gets the bloody duck, and brings it back to you without damage. You pat it, say "good boy," and it's delighted. Later you feed it dry kibble.

Why wouldn't you value such a pet? It's useful, and all for a few pounds of kibble and a pat on the head a week.

Beta orbiters are the same thing. They provide attention, validation, skills, strength, and all of the other "boyfriend" payouts, without the trouble of sex. And all just for the pleasure of her company. And maybe a brownie or a cup of coffee after her bathroom has been re-grouted.

Hot women like you just as you like a useful pet. Don't EVER make the mistake of thinking you can turn being a useful pet into being a lover.

First - decide what you want. Then chase after it. You are unlikely to bed this one, ever. You are so deep in the Friend Zone you can't even SEE the Bone Zone from here. So the next bit of advice is based on preventing her from bad-mouthing you to the other girls in class and maybe getting some use out of her as a pre-qualifier for other women. (Social proof.) But only if you can get that without being drawn back into her orbit.

Don't tell her you can be school companions or anything like that. That's a discussion about feelings, and you don't want to get drawn into that.

So - first, do NOT text her back. Ignore ALL social media and text contacts from her until after you've seen her again.

Next, when you see her, make eye contact, smile, and give her a shallow nod so that she doesn't feel snubbed. Then, go on about your business. Do not approach her. All approaches from now on need to come from HER.

When you get the next text or email, or if she approaches you in person, go with: "Hey." Wait for her to say more.

Keep the conversation focused on school and class stuff. Never, ever get drawn into a discussion of feelings.

If she starts asking "why can't we be friends," look at her like she's out of her mind and say "aren't we?"

When she starts asking for your time, energy, money, or emotional support, your response is, "I can't, I've got a date."

FrameWalker · 2015-04-17T20:44:32+00:00

Give her hamster a nice spin. Don't declare to her that you can't be friends, don't declare any attraction to her, or ask her out directly. Smile say hi politely and mostly ignore. When she confronts you enthusiastically agree to text her about getting coffee and don't follow through. Repeat a few times. Make her feel like she has an orbiter, then ghost on her. Play dumb if she asks you about it.

Find excuses to not talk to her during and after class but hint that you'll catch up later.

Title	girl i was orbiting on school came back, what to do?
Author	warkirp
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	April 17, 2015 7:48 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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