Maintaining interest

smoothmax · 2019-10-06T16:25:34+00:00

Maybe you shouldn't hang around her all night and you should withhold the makeouts. Otherwise you've given her 90% of the gratification of male attention with none of the muss and fuss of awkward drunken sex, Uber rides home at 5 am, slut shaming by her friends etc.

Meet her, vibe with her, dance with her and get her number. Don't give her sexual gratification in the club but tell her ... "Hey gonna go meet some more people now see you later". And your frame is, If you're a good girl we can hang around again later tonight or maybe some other time.

RaptorMan333 · 2019-10-06T17:15:16+00:00

That can be really hard. Usually when that happens, it is because you didn't spend ENOUGH time with her. My 15 min convos never really result in a date, but if we really vibe for a good bit and she gets comfortable with me, there's a much higher chance of response. It could also be your text game and response time. But if you're spending a lot of time, then that's not the problem. I wouldn't text the next morning. Like ever. I frequently wait a few days even to text, and ideally you want to text a bit right in front of her. Tease her or make fun of her via text when she's right in front of you and it opens the lines of communication so it's not weird when she texts you the next day because you already have something going. Really though, bar pickups are just flakey.

I'm not a huge fan of bar makeouts. They can work, especially if you're trying to bring her back that night. But I think a quick kiss on the lips is a better idea. Makeout is more foreplay and you might get her turned on but also could trigger some ASD and get her worried that she's moving too fast and in too public of a place. It's good to be seen with girls but if you're seen just making out, you might miss out on other girls.

And remember, just because you didn't get drunk doesn't mean she didn't. Could easily just be her writing it off as a drunk bar makeout.

Title	Maintaining interest
Author	Chertsey_Chap
Upvotes	1
Comments	2
Date	October 6, 2019 12:57 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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