Confusing IOI's?

testzxcvb · 2019-10-11T19:47:40+00:00

Some women just won't initiate until you've been fucking their brains out for months. Some will initiate the first date. I think you should pursue and arrange second dates, but do it the professional way i.e a week later. You can get these women hooked and chasing you, but takes more than 1 date man, so don't stress. If woman hooked after first date, probably red flag.

WIA20XX · 2019-10-12T02:25:46+00:00

we never talk after unless otherwise initiated by me.

You're needy. Maybe pickup isn't right for you right now.

Generally speaking (there are always exceptions), girls like it when you lead, take charge, take initiative, and plan. So they should fall back but....

When a girl really likes you, and puts you in boyfriend category, she can't get enough of you.

She always wants to be with you, in touch with you, always wants to hang out.

So if a chick isn't proactive, just reactive - her interest in you isn't at the boyfriend level.

This behavior is sort of normal. She's basically not putting you in boyfriend material category.

And for a PUA/player, that's great.

I can get shit done without having to manage the chick and her emotions. Then I can call her up, hang out, and hookup at my leisure.

But you're being needy. You want the girl to want you more.

I try to keep the texting to a very minimal,

This is the worst advice that guys follow. You not being on her radar, not a source of phone fun, doesn't help her get attached.

You expect her to send you good morning texts? "Baby I miss you"

Are you doing things with her that warrant girlfriend behavior?

No, you aren't.

using it only to set up dates and try to be dry when they begin boring mundane small talk.

So you shut her down instead of encouraging the thing you want.

Am I doing something wrong?

To be honest, you're doing everything right, if you want to be a player.

But that's not what you really want.

the_tyson · 2019-10-11T21:31:49+00:00

dude, don't fucking contact them after the first date. You let them come to you. I would wait at least 5 days before reaching out. If you're always there they don't need to chase. You're taking that from them. Let them chase.

asiam_man · 2019-10-11T22:24:05+00:00

They're not going to set up a second date. You're the man, not them.

If you can't get a second date, you didn't spend enough time building comfort. You only built attraction, they've had sex with you, and they've been validated.

Title	Confusing IOI's?
Author	masterofnone416
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	October 11, 2019 4:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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