Stop being nervous

qwerty2173 · 2019-10-27T17:11:14+00:00

Had the same problem for a while. My focus in set was always on trying not to be nervous. Ironically, this always made it worse.

The best solution I’ve found is to just embrace it. Instead of doing everything possible to deny my nervousness and force myself to not be, I would just take a deep breath and say to my self, “yup, I’m nervous. Nothing I can do about it. It is what it is.”

Now, at first, this won’t do much for your results but overtime (and much quicker than you’d think) your nervousness will start to subside. This is because when you’re constantly focused on your nervousness, it creates a feedback loop in your brain and establishes a connection in your brain between that nervousness and the experience of talking to girls.

Instead, when you embrace the nervousness and just let it be, your attention will be focused elsewhere which 1) will improve your game by being more engaged and 2) will start to break the feedback loop and connection that’s been established in your brain.

smoothmax · 2019-10-27T17:11:49+00:00

Try those "practice eye contact" youtubes. Feel the panic and nervousness build up and let it wash over you like a wave. Then the wave retreats you're still there. Nothing bad happens.

Also practice smiling in the mirror. Imagine you're walking up to a beautiful woman. Turn on a big, shit-eating grin for 5 seconds then relax. Repeat a couple of times. Do this every couple of days and soon you'll be smiling like an SOB. Smiling, even if it's forced, actually changes your physical and mental state. Very soon after starting to practice, it won't be forced any more.

Some PUAs tape a picture of a babe to their mirror and practice saying hi and telling stories. Strange but true. I didn't do it but I'm sure it works.

Atriev · 2019-10-27T17:00:24+00:00

Slow the fuck down. Get in front of a mirror and smile and give yourself an arrogant grin for 1 minute. You’re the fucking man.

Then go.

The more confident you show up, the fewer shit tests they’ll immediately throw at you. You’re psyching yourself out because of these shit tests.

Your biggest problem is your open is probably weak. Get her attention. Lock eyes. Then say whatever open you wanted to say. It’s not the words. It’s your tone. It’s your eyes. Your smile.

After the open, don’t just get her phone number and run away. Those sets are the worst. You’ll be stuck in texting oblivion. Make plans when you’re talking to her so when you text her later, it’s much easier.

Find a pick-up channel you resonate with and keep watching their content. Watch their infields. If a channel does not have infield and only talk about concepts, STOP WATCHING THAT CHANNEL.

You have so much content you need to learn about. This is an exciting and stressful time. I wish you the best.

Never deny yourself as a man. If you want it badly enough, through all the shit you’ll experience, you’ll make it happen.

I don’t know you but I’m rooting for you.

Title	Stop being nervous
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Upvotes	8
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Date	October 27, 2019 4:55 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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