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[–]ImJustSo 10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Uh, you should absolutely maintain some sort of contact if you like her. You don't have to gush, but damn...tell her something, because the likelihood of her feeling way more insecure than you are right now is super high. Just let her know that you'd like to see her when you get back to town.
[–]SPLASHBANDIT- 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good advice. Throughout the night she did seem a bit nervous which I took as not being interested but after a bit she seemed to get more comfortable and fun. Maybe she’s just nervous right now as well which is why it seems like there’s a lack of interest
[–]listlesslov92 4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hmm I’m going through the same thing except I’m the girl . He texted me to make sure I got back home ok and even said are you excited to see me again (we made tentative plans over dinner to see each other again for Tuesday ) ... I absolutely agree that it’s necessary for you to contact her so she knows you’re interested. It’s also nice knowing that there’s a possibility of seeing each other again . Trust me she’s waiting for this text. My guy texted me a few more times and It’s now been 3 days and we are 2 days away from our next date . I have no clue if Tuesday is still happening and I’m stressing over what to do .I guess this is normal guy behavior? No clue . Let me ask you though - how would you have felt if she texted you first ?
Great to hear the other perspective. I sent her a text with a link to some inside jokes, and she responded thinking it was funny but not a whole lot more. I’d feel weird carrying the convo more but maybe she’s nervous.
I’d personally love it if the girl texted me bc I’d wanna know if she’s still interested. But at the same mind that’s me thinking about this girl particularly. When it comes to girls I wasn’t as interested in, I’d still be fine with it as long as it’s not too aggressive. If it’s just something funny or light hearted it would be cool and a good way to gauge.
[–]listlesslov92 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’d say she probably doesn’t know how to respond . I’d think it’s great you reached out to me , but then what ? It’s nice to just say hey I had great time the other night and see what she says . Girls are scared of sounding too eager and saying the wrong things . We are also hard wired and told by “rules” women that the man has to do all the pursuing. That being said, keeping the conversation light and inviting will open her up more . Most women hate themselves after a one night stand - again , something we are told is a big no no. Make her feel like she shouldn’t regret what she did by reassuring her you had a good time too.
[–]SPLASHBANDIT- 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s good advice. That’s what I’d feel like. We had sex and I feel like that’s both of us being vulnerable and saying we like each other so I feel like the attraction would be there. I’m just overthinking and I think im getting one tinitis, idk why but she’s special.
I tried to keep a conversation going and she seemed to be opening up slightly but looking back at it I sound awkward. Don’t think I’d been this nervous texting a girl since I was in middle school. Haven’t heard back and don’t expect to. I think what I should do is not take it too seriously and chill out for now and focus on myself on this vacation and hit her up when I am back in Boston. What do you guys think?
[–]listlesslov92 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’d def hit her up after the holidays !
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