# Person Type Dominant Lack Common Themes How to Communicate with this type
1 The Reformed Rake/Siren Long for Old Ways 1) Decided to Settle Down 2) Sense of Loss 3) Strong Desire for Missing Path Offer the opportunity to have them resume their ways. Often have to let them spark interest indirectly. Let a Rake know he's a rake. Let a Siren know she's still a siren. Hide your true intentions and realize that what you want may not happen. Unfaithful by nature.
2 The Pampered Royal Endless Search for Parental Figure in the Adult World 1) Classic, Spoiled Children 2) Parents met all needs 3) Taught that others will entertain them 4) Lazy as got older, but still bored and restless. Habit and routine settle in as search for a parental figure who will spoil them New places, color, spectacle, an air of mystery, new sides to the character, variety. Have to do a lot of work. Have to disguise the desire for long-term relationships. We need to show short-term noncommitment. Long-term hint scares them away.
3 The New Prude Desire to be sexual 1) Excessively concerned appearances and what society considers acceptable and the fear of judgment from society. 2) Excessively concerned with tastefulness, political correctness, standards of goodness, fairness. 3) Deep down excited by dark transgressions, drab colors, no fashion risks, judgmental of people who are correct, addicted to routine to fix inner turmoil. Tempted by someone with a naughty side. Do not be taken in by judgments or criticisms. Often drawn in by a chance to criticize or reform you. Now they have a perfect reason time to spend time with you. Get them to let go and be okay with their inperfections but let them work on yours. They like your dark side.
4 The Crushed Star The Glory Days 1) At one point in their lives, they found themselves the center of attention. 2) Charming, potential athletes, but those days are gone - they may seem to accept those days are gone. 3) Tamp down desire and fail to get attention so they get resentful of their decisions Let them speak of their glory days. Make them the center of attention. Make them the star and you are basking in their glow. Let them radiate. Play the charmer. Stir up powerful emotions with a humble inquiry. Avoid this person if you have Dandy tendencies
5 The Novice Experience - Hint of evil or corruption 1) Fatally Curious - Little or No Experience of World Firsthand - longing to be initiated into the ways of the world. Be a person who has a touch of corruption and evil - too strong and you will frighten. Hidden depths are shown by the seducer. Expose them to new ideas, new places, new worlds, physical and metaphoric - must be romantic and in ideals. Use seductive language, color, and details. Target lacks the experience to see through. Novices understand the effect their humility and "babyness" have on older people especially their curiosity. Mix innocence and corruption to fascinate.
6 The Conqueror Need to display power 1) High energy is tough to control. 2) Always looking to overcome challenges 3) Can be shy in social situations 4) Look at their actions - work & relationships and love power. Emotional (outbursts) 5) Do not lie down for them, they will discard. 6) Chance to be aggressive before letting them think they have overwhelmed you. Keep them charging back and forth like a bull until they have become dependent. Think Napoleon and Josephine or Cleopatra and Octavius.
7 The Exotic Fetishist Newer and Better 1) Degree of interest in the unique and exotic 2) This is due to their own self loathe and emptiness they feel inside 3) they do not like their social class or where they come from 4) they like to travel to unique places 5) their houses filled with objects of foreign cultures 6) often exhibit rebellious streaks in cyclical fashion 7) constant self-deluders Play up what makes you exotic - clothes, places, show how you are different. Always want something else. Underlying insecurity will always keep you on edge. If they are stuck based on their circumstances, it will be better to offer a temporary escape from their oppression. However, nothing will offer them escape from themselves.
8 The Drama Queen Mental Frame 1) Some people cannot do without constant drama in their lives due to constant boredom 2) Hate stability 3) Enjoy playing the victim 4) Pain is a source of pleasure to them 5) Recognized by people who have hurt them. Have to give them the mental rough treatment they desire. The moment that you turn too nice, they will leave. Have to constantly renew the relationship. Brings drama into your own life
9 The Professor Physical Stimuli 1) Incessant need to analyze and criticize everything that crossed their path 2) minds are overstimulated and overdeveloped 3) over thought 4) developed minds at expense of their bodies 5) conversations are ironic and rye 6) sense that they are looking down 7) would love pure physicality but cannot get there on their own. Long to be overwhelmed by a rake or siren. Lots of insecurities. Make them feel like Don Juans or a Siren and they will be your slave. Offer escape from the mind. Make it complete. If you have intellectual tendencies, hide them Let the professor judge you and try to teach you. Do not show your intellectual side.
10 The Beauty Desire to be appreciated for non-looks 1) Gazed at from a young age 2) Looks are a source of frustration for the person because they worry about the inevitability of aging and how it will impact their appearance 3) Senses that being worshipped only for one's appearance is monotonous, dissatisfying and lonely 4) Understand that most men are intimidated and don't come into conversation. Other men come in but cannot make conversations because they make their intentions obvious. 6) Would love to do some chasing on her own as she is used to being chased. Highlight skills, intelligence, personality, choices, and non-beatify characteristics in addition to things that make her beautiful. If you make any intention to approach her based on because you think she is hot, she will read right through you. Her many insecurities will require great attention and care over time if you decide to go into an LTR with a beauty..Go cold and let her chase you sometimes.
11 The Aging Baby The desire for Status Quo 1) Afraid to grow up and dislike responsibility so they may be charming in their 20s, interesting in their 30s but by the time they reach 40 it starts to wear thin 2) Aging Baby does not want another aging baby or competition but rather an adult figure While you have to be the responsible person always in your frame, you must appear to like their young youthful spirit. Act as the loving adult to the hilt. While it can be amusing, but the aging baby is potently narcissistic. See them as short-term amusements
12 The Rescuer Self-Empathy 1) Drawn into people who seem vulnerable as their sadness and depression seems seductive to a rescuer. 2) Rescuers have a great deal of empathy that causes this type to become dependent on fixing and correcting troubled people. 3) Seem to be attracted to people with problems and while that seems noble, Rescuer's motives are often complicated. 4) While they are empathetic and their sensitive natures want to help you, solving problems allow them to feel superior and in control and provides a distraction from their own problems. They listen well and try to get you to open up and talk about your issues. Women Plays Damsel in Distress- Allows the man to act the chance to be a knight. Female gains satisfaction being in control in this scenario. Exaggerate words through a sense of too little love - a string of bad relationships, bad deal in life....steady supply of needs and vulnerabilities. Man plays a boy who cannot deal with this harsh world Air of Sadness, Raw Deal in Life, Lure Rescuer in with needs and sensitivities. Also moral - needs stern loving hand. Vicarious thrill with someone naughty. This allows the rescuer to feel morally superior.
13 The Rouette (Spinning Wheel) Miss the youth 1) Lived a very nice life and experienced great pleasures at one point 2) Cynical and jaded from outside, but their worldliness adds sentimentality they struggle to repress 3) Love the young, innocence. Need to appear young and innocent. Make a show of how little experience you have. Resist advances. Let them chase. Make it seem you dislike or distrust them Be the one who resists in order to control the interaction with resistance. Don't give into early, don't let your guard down.
14 Idle Worshipper Lack of Adoration for themselves Never satisfied with themselves. Incessant longing to fill their inner void. Distracted by their own void that they see in other people because they lack self-knowledge. They pour energy into multiple organizations and social constructs to rationalize their mindset. The constant search for better and the right things like spirituality and distractions in life from fixing what they do not like about themselves. They are easy to spot. Think of them as the person who often leaves one cult for another. Be the object of worship. Take place of cause. Share an interest or expose them to the new cause. Eventually, you will displace. Hide your flaws for as long as possible. Mirror qualities they aspire for themselves. Overactive minds. Suspicious. They often lack physical stimulation and their minds are always ticking so you must keep them physically busy. Low Self Esteem. They are to worship you. Do not try to raise them up. They are to worship you. The endless need to search will make them tired eventually and they will settle into a life of regret.
15 Sensualist Overact to External Stimuli 1) Overactive Senses 2) Stylish 3) Shy, Shrink from being flamboyant 4) Depressed by certain Color 5) Culture of desensitized experienced.6) Lacks enough sensual experience 7) Often sensitive and responsive to the environment Take them to beautiful places, physical lures, take them to places, appeal to senses - food, culture, movies, smell, kind. Think Cleopatra on Marc Antony. Relatively docile. Appeal to as many senses as possible. You must vary the sensual appeals in quality and in kind. They are docile if you give them what you want.
16 Lonely Leader Too intimidating to approach 1) Suspicious, distrustful, hard around the edges.2) Long to be seduced. Long to have someone break through isolation to breakthrough. 3) Distrustful that someone will take their power Act like an equal or superior. The target can be made emotional by inflicting pain followed by tenderness. Their mind is always burdened by responsibilities so you have to be careful slowly filling their heads with ideas so that in solitude they depend on you. Must be blunt with the powerful. Hard to seduce. Less mental space and requires patience, slowly filling thoughts of their minds on you. In loneliness, they depend on you.
17 Floating Gender Type Uncertain about Sexuality/Gender Uncertain about gender. 2) Feel burden that there is a classification of sexes 3) masculine/feminine sides in flux and they go into their extremes 4) would love to play with their gender 5) woman with a masculine side. Looking for counterpart from the opposite sex. If they have such proclivities they are looking for people who match that in the other person. Other people create discomfort for them.
18 The Disappointed Dreamer Lacking their Dream World Spent a lot of time alone and had a powerful fantasy life. As they got older, it was tough for them to reconcile reality with fantasy life, especially relationships. They forced themselves to compromise what they wanted and are still hungry for the grand and romantic. Often a taste for drama peaks through. Often trapped in drab relationships. Inner tension. Filled with disappointment. Pent up passion. Great Imaginations and respond to romantic things. Disguise bad qualities and let them live out their dream. Give them part of what they want and they will fall. Do not let reality creep into the picture at all. Any drop of reality will send the dreamer into disarray.