Would it be a deal-breaker for a girl if I don't have any friends?

2019-12-26T03:52:42+00:00

Here's my argument, feel free to disagree and tell me why.

Attraction is built off of the foundations of many things. Status, physical attraction, wealth, and personality to name a few. Attraction is not a choice, you don't choose to be attracted to someone. If someone was attracted to you based on your wealth and physical attraction, no. But if the foundation of your attraction was built on the premise that you are well-liked, absolutely.

It also has a lot to do with the girl. Seduction isn't a perfect science, it can't be replicated similar to how a science experiment can. Many factors you cannot account for will change it. In essence, you can be blunt with 100 different girls and say "I have no friends" and get a different response from every single one of them.

That being said, most of what Game is, is the portrayal of some sort of status. The portrayal of being interesting, the portrayal of being well known, the portrayal of intelligence, whathaveyou. All of which lower status. Not having any friends lowers your status tremendously. It raises questions like "Why doesn't he have friends?" and "Why don't other people like him?". These questions are not exactly the same questions that come into mind when you think about an attractive person.

Tldr: Yes, but no, but mostly yeah.

letzgetbaked · 2019-12-26T04:41:42+00:00

I dated a guy that didn’t have any friends- he was a good guy, just very busy and had trouble connecting with people. Because he didn’t have friends, I had to be everything for him and it was sort of exhausting. Like, he didn’t have any other support network to turn to when he needed one — just me. It also made me feel guilty when I wanted time to spend with my friends, because I knew he couldn’t do the same.

Honestly for me I think it would be a deal breaker. I need some independence in a relationship and I’d like for my partner to have their own life independent of me as well.

jackzander · 2019-12-26T08:02:13+00:00

You're already trying to talk yourself out of supposedly trying to get a girlfriend.

One step at a time, friendo.

Drygord · 2019-12-26T06:08:41+00:00

All depends. If you are socially popular but choose to not have friends, no. If you want friends but can’t get any then it would lower her attraction.

Ratio55 · 2019-12-26T06:11:27+00:00

Will definitely depend on the girl. For example, some people are naturally very introverted, and do not want/need many or even any friends to live a life that fulfills them. That type of person would not find it a turn off.

NobodyP1 · 2019-12-26T07:13:23+00:00

Easy don’t tell her anything. Be very vague about everything. “How many girls you’ve been with?” Say “pick a number” whatever number she picks is how much. I apply this to dates (second or third so they are comfortable with me). I just tell them what to wear and bring. I honestly have no friends but a lot of acquaintances. I like it that way. I could go on and on but you have to start small.

Supermax189 · 2019-12-26T06:01:52+00:00

Deal breaker for sure. I cant be your everything and eventually that expectation will surface

Lines01 · 2019-12-26T23:27:56+00:00

Nah, it’s common for men to lose friend as they age. I can say one of my biggest mentors doesn’t have any true guy friends at all and he has absolutely no problem with women.

hvagjor · 2019-12-26T06:54:26+00:00

If you can't make friends you probably don't have the skills to get a girlfriend anyway.

I get concerned when I find out a guy has no friends or very few friends. It's a huge red flag. It means something is probably wrong with him where he can't maintain relationships. Probably burned a lot of bridges or made people fed up with his shit. Or he's just awkward or doesn't like anybody.

fuckology_isnotajoke · 2019-12-26T06:07:55+00:00

If it means less people for me to deal with in my life not at all.

Savaaage · 2019-12-26T07:53:55+00:00

Yes it is

2019-12-26T17:10:29+00:00

Depends on the reasoning why you have 0 friends, if you’re a serious introverted loner, I mean I guess it won’t be an issue if she’s the same, regardless that is a bit of a red flag , every girl I’ve dated that “didn’t have friends”, it was always for a reason on their part.

Title	Would it be a deal-breaker for a girl if I don't have any friends?
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Date	December 26, 2019 3:43 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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