All the time I see a newbie approaching someone, he/she's shy, shoulders contracted and back curved, it's like when a kid did something wrong and it's going to tell the parents. With the exception that the approach is made smiling, it looks like you're begging for the person to accept your silly request. But, for god's sake, YOUR REQUEST IS NOT SILLY, it's not nonsense, it's not a joke, it's a serious matter, you really MEAN AND WANT WHAT YOU ASKED.

Imagine you having a discussion with the Costumer Service because of some bad product you received, you're there having this conversation because you have reasons, you have the right to do it and you should be doing it to make things right for yourself, you won't be like "yeah sooo, i kinda think you should haha, you know... maybe change the product? Because it's like, it's broke and it isn't correct, right? But just if you want to, you know? hihi", no, you'll be dead serious with your intention of getting what you want, APPROACHING SHOULD BE THE SAME.

To be clear, I'm not saying you should make it a serious boring colloquial conversation or that you shouldn't accept a "no" for an answer, but if you ask a friend "yo man let's go to this party" and he declines, you won't be like "omg he/she said no what i do imma run", you"ll try to convince the person otherwise or be undestanding, you weren't afraid of rejection before you asked and didn't panic after your friend rejected, APPROACHING SHOULD BE THE SAME .

Having this mindset will automatically correct a lot of mistakes you might make, like the silly smile, the defensive body language, the fear of rejection and dealing with it, the anxiety and so on. The night I realised it, i can't really tell you the feeling, it takes a little to really contract what I'm saying and apply it to your game, but it really changed it all for me.

You should be funny, relaxed and shit, this advice is for your MINDSET, you are a person with needs and you're asking what you're asking to fullfil them, there's nothing wrong, dumb, silly or anything to be ashamed of in your action.

You are doing nothing silly and NEED TO BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY