How do you escalate when a girl approaches you in a concert/nightclub ?

Disbon · 2020-02-09T14:31:45+00:00

It simply means you are trying to escalate at the wrong time, or the girl is intoxicated. Just forget the pick up stuff, go with gut feeling in this case. The fact that you are being approached is quite a good sign; you have an advantage over most males.

MirrorThaoss · 2020-02-09T19:58:51+00:00

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recyclablebanthas · 2020-02-11T03:00:11+00:00

(My reply assumes that you didn't have a lot of nonverbal communication through eye contact and such before she pulled up in front of you. It's unclear how much interaction you had with her before that.)

It regularely happens when we go to the night club and I have no idea how to react.

A girl comes closer and dances in front of me (it's in a club with a artist on a scene so everybody faces the same direction, so I have her back in front of me, kinda like a vertical spooning), I have her right in front of me and have no idea how to escalate.

A lot of communication is nonverbal. in a club or party environment you're having to lean more heavily on the nonverbal.

One of the most important aspects of nonverbal communication is facial expressions. if you can't see those, then you're running blind, which isn't good or helpful to the cause.

Approaching from behind, sight unseen, in an environment like that where she's likely dealing with regular groping from drunk dudes, is not starting off on a very good foot. So what you would want to do is somehow get to where you're facing each other.

That's going to be easier to do dance floor game in places where the focus of attention is not all in one direction. Like a normal dance club where the focus is decentralized and it's normal for everybody to be facing in different directions.

In the situation where your describing, your best option would be to pull up alongside her facing whatever show you're watching, and go from there, before you'd be doing anything from behind her.

From there, you two have the same sort of options you have in a normal dance club, like goofing off, being playful, dancing with her, etc.

If this part is handled well, then you may end up with her in front of you again and that's where it would escalate.

MirrorThaoss · 2020-02-09T19:46:54+00:00

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strxxtlegals · 2020-02-09T15:32:53+00:00

aight so i've been to nightclubs plenty of times and this is what i got for advice

first of all drink a fuck ton so you aren't awkward and your confidence boosts, and eventually this would apply to your natural state, but in a nightclub u should always get drunk. you shouldn't hold any long or medium convo, just try keeping everything short. For me girls usually try and grab me in the clubs and if I find them attractive I just hook up with them then dip right after, but if they really catch my attention i'd tell them to bring it to their hotel or something.

what i do to check if shes interested is i just approach her smoothly and put my arms around her, assuming she was making eye contact with me or showing some kind of sign, i go up n say wassup then i ask for her name (this is a good time to check if she really is interested), during that im slowly pulling her closer and after we exchange names and if she tries to back up just let her go and move onto the next bitch. if not yall gonna be hooking up already.

smoothmax · 2020-02-09T16:09:46+00:00

I'll tell you what I've failed to do whenever this has happened, which is to spark interest or move things forward via conversation and banter.

When and if it happens again I think I will go for a physical connection instead ... such as a warm hand-hold (Engineered Lifestyle's The Hand of God), a meaningful hug, or my arm(s) around her waist.

Going the kino route makes sense because her approaching you is the ultimate IOI. You don't have to open her or win her over she's already on your team. Part of your entourage if not actually your date.

Title	How do you escalate when a girl approaches you in a concert/nightclub ?
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Date	February 9, 2020 1:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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