I found this and it perfectly describes what I've been trying to get at when I ask for help here.

Specifically these are what I need help with:

  • I'm not the man I want to be. My confidence seems to be such a temporal thing when talking to girls I don't know.

  • Some girls find me attractive but as soon as I open my mouth, their attraction goes down. Now this post is only part of the problem.

  • The only explanation I have for this is that girls see me as attractive so they have this expectation that I should be dominant, confident but it really is not me and it really is stopping me from progressing with them. Almost like I have to align my personality to my looks?

  • I still feel I have dorky trends about myself in that I will always say shit even if it's not funny as it'll amuse me, however people around will be like 'wtf?'.

  • I'm not sure how I can transition myself into how I should be. How do I change from the dork I am to more of a man?