TL;DR: When messaging a girl starts to become stale, and you're unable to meet up with her anytime soon (because quarantine), send her a voice message. You'll stand out from all the other guys trying to message her, it allows her to get a better sense of who you are and connect with you more, and opens up a better avenue for building and maintaining a connection/ attraction that messaging won't.

So dating apps are pretty much the primary means of meeting women during this pandemic. I've noticed an influx in matches since quarantine started, probably because people aren't receiving the social fulfillment that they'd normally receive from their everyday interactions. And while talking and getting to know all these girls I've matched with is nice for the ego, it's not going to be sustainable for another month or two until quarantine is over. I can feel myself getting bored with these text convos, and with however many other guys most likely trying to message the same girl too, it's only a matter of time before they get over it too.

Texting/ messaging is not effective in building or maintaining any kind of deep connection with someone. It really should only be used for building some initial comfort before meeting up, making plans to meet up, and keeping yourself relevant until the meet up. But guess what, a meet up isn't happening anytime soon.

So how do you build attraction, maintain interest, and ensure you and your matches (or anyone you're getting to know over messaging) actually meet up when quarantine is over?

Send a voice message. Don't call. Send a voice message in your messaging app.

Guys... I shit you not, it almost feels like I'm cheating the game in some way from how effective this has been for me.

A couple months back I was trying to meet up with this girl I was messaging, who despite her obvious interest in me, was just too socially anxious to commit to a date. I thought to myself: This girl only knows me through my texts. That means she's going to interpret and hear my words however she wants. She's clearly been through enough shit with guys to by default read things not in a positive way. I bet if she could just hear my voice, hear how relaxed and nonchalant I am about the whole situation, she'd probably be way more comfortable with the idea of actually meeting up. But I feel like calling her might be too much for her...

And then I remembered that you can send voice recordings through messages. This would be perfect because she'd be able to hear me, pick up on my personality, and not have to deal with the pressure of a phone call from some guy she's never actually met.

My message basically went like this: "Hey (cute IG girl), I know this is pretty random, but I didn't want to type a whole essay out over text. I know you're pretty nervous at the idea of meeting up, I get it. Im some random ass dude, maybe I was too aggressive with trying to make plans with you? Either way there's no hard feelings. I'd love to stay in touch at whatever level you're comfortable with if you're up for that. Otherwise I'll see you around!" (I'm paraphrasing here quite a bit but you get the jist)

She responded in 20 minutes with a voice message back that went: "Hey Reaver. Thank you for the very long winded message haha, that was actually really sweet. You don't have anything to apologize for, I was being a weenie (her actual words lol) and just got so nervous at meeting up with a cute boy, it's been a while. But i'd really like to actually meet up with you and redo this shit. Let me know if you're down"

Baboom. Took some patience, some empathy, and willingness to potentially let something go, but that's what we should be practicing anyway.

So fast forward to the present. I'm getting over messaging all these girls, but there's two that I'm really into and would love to see after quarantine. I'm nervous that just texting won't make things last. I remember what I did with that first girl months ago, and try to pull the same maneuver. I figure they probably already have a bunch of guys messaging them, what better way to make myself stand out.

So I send them both a voice message that goes something like this: "Hey (cute hinge/ tinder girl)! I know this is super random, but I'm so over texting being the only way of communicating with people. So this is me spicing things up... with a random ass voice message. Hope you're doing well (bring up topic they previously expressed interest in) (bring up topic you previously brought up before) anyway, I'm not gonna make this a 30 minute long thing. But. If you wanna like actually freakin call me sometime, that'd be cool. Or even send me one of these silly voice messages, that's just as good. I legit get anxious about getting surprise phone calls so just warn me before hand. Talk to you soon"

My goal was to just keep it short and sweet, and make it super apparent how silly and how not seriously I was taking sending this voice message, laughing at myself here and there while recording.

Sure enough, both girls responded super well. One wanted to call me that night and we talked for 6 hours straight. The other sent me a really cute voice message back, and we just played voice message tag for the day before she wanted to call the next night.

I think this is so effective for a few reasons. Girls are probably getting flooded with messages from thirsty guys right now, all pulling the same shit. This makes you stand out by putting a voice and a distinguishable personality to a person. And unlike an actual phone call, it puts very little pressure on the girl by allowing her to get a preview of you before she decides she wants to actually talk to you.

Again, your message should be short, around a minute or a minute and a half (a minute of talking goes by way quicker than you'd think so check before sending), don't get into anything deep, bring up something you've discussed before or even just something interesting about your day, acknowledge what you're doing is kind of silly, and make it apparent that you aren't taking this seriously at all, if anything do your best to show you're just doing this to have fun more than anything.

I'm waking up to texts from these girls every day now asking when we can call or facetime again. Don't forget to just be yourself and have fun with this! Good luck yall, and stay home! Stay safe!