Instant hookup but didnt perform. Help?

vvvrath12 · 2020-04-14T11:12:07+00:00

Imagine getting an 8 seducing you...can't relate

jvd321 · 2020-04-14T03:34:07+00:00

Too much weed and porn,.... Also u said this happened today? Where did u fibd a place to drink

2020-04-14T04:33:54+00:00

It happens. You got into your own head. Sounds almost like you couldn't believe what was happening to you and your dick followed suit and wasn't buying it either lol.

Stay hydrated, keep your blood circulation moving and stay up on your vitamins.

2020-04-14T04:49:50+00:00

Dont beat yourself up about it it was a weird experience so of course you didnt want to perform unless you do this shit often

nostatoch · 2020-04-14T11:49:42+00:00

Maybe you got anxious.

SteveSan82 · 2020-04-14T11:12:09+00:00

8s don't have tats

cyclone_f5 · 2020-04-14T13:15:29+00:00

40F here. I think the answer is simple - you are not a hookup type of person. You tried it and it didn’t work for you. You prob just need to meet and talk on the first date and wait to feel comfortable before getting physical. There is nothing wrong with you - your gut knew it wasn’t the right situation.

Also - kind of worrisome that she immediately went for a BJ with no foreplay which leads me to believe she prob doesn’t have a lot of bedroom skills either. Regardless the chemistry just wasn’t there and sometimes you don’t know until you start fooling around. Don’t dwell on it - trust what your dick is telling you.

TheMuddestCrab · 2020-04-14T13:45:10+00:00

What in the fuck is with these comments people?

The chick tried to fuck you in public mate. It was stage fright, you felt uncomfortable. NBD.

Go home, have a wank and be proud that a good looking girl seduced you, sucked you off and tried to fuck you.

There's nothing wrong with you.

IBeSomebooty · 2020-04-14T14:35:57+00:00

I had a woman do the same thing to me, she tried to show me her breasts multiple times at a bar, but something about it made me kind of awkward about it. Like I almost didn't want to see them, It's okay to be uncomfortable with situations your not used to.

But getting it up is a different situation, it seems like she was nearly dominating you, blowing you then grinding on you. You should of took control.

DatingAndTinderLife · 2020-04-14T15:07:16+00:00

Eat garlic, spinach, salmon, and drink 1 glass of red wine every so often. Avocados are good too. Do home workouts since it’s corona time. Keep your blood pumping and eat foods that increase your blood flow. Try again with another girl after corona. Hell, find a 5 or 6 on tinder to try with—there are shitloads of them. Just let them know you’re just dtf, and don’t be an asshole by lying.

Btw I had the same problem the first 3 times I had sex, and she was a 9. Fourth time was the charm!

2020-04-14T05:14:32+00:00

Make sure to carry a condom with you as well. It will protect you and your mind will be prepared that you can get Sex anytime. It gives psychological effect. Believe me.

FurtiveFella · 2020-04-14T08:30:09+00:00

This is such a multifaceted question to answer that it's not physically possible to give one answer. It could be a matter of psychological (stress, anxiety, addiction to porn) or physical (blood flow, disability).

Try to document when moments like this in your life happen, tie the events together and hopefully you can come up with a conclusion in the end.

Good luck.

TheMailmanic · 2020-04-14T07:35:00+00:00

Start taking zinc and vitamin d 4000iu per day minimum

johan_strauss1482 · 2020-04-14T06:22:38+00:00

I had this happen several times, you need to check up with a doctor in case its early onset ED, or perhaps you've been stressed or wasn't in the mood. I don't really know more about your personal life to be sure, but get in touch with a doctor just to be sure.

Also, develop ways to pleasure a woman orally or with your hands at least, just in case this happens again.

Title	Instant hookup but didnt perform. Help?
Author	Ecstatic-Bowl
Upvotes	8
Comments	15
Date	April 14, 2020 3:26 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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