During the day I'm working as a programmer and solving logical problems where I have to concentrate to just understand the problem and then find the best solution to fix it.

While I'm in this logical state I'm very straight forward to the problem and try not to distract myself with unnecessary interruptions. After work time usually my brain shuts off and I can no longer work, even if I try to, because I'm tired and this is the perfect time to communicate with women. But if I'm too tired or go out with friends, then I skip writing to women and skipping them for a few days means the end (Note: this is the period before first date in online dating).

But neglecting them so much usually it backfires to me (Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should be available all the time), because I'm waiting to get into emotional state to write them, otherwise our conversations are boring as fuck, even though I'm trying not to be an interview-like chat, there is no emotion into it.

So I want to have some chat with them to keep the fire going during the day. but how to enter into emotional state faster?