I know this place it about dating but do you guys know how you can heal that empty hole?

2020-07-25T13:57:54+00:00

Have a passion in life

Have a goal which makes you feel great.

That's what will bring happiness and satisfaction in your life. No other person can. No one.

norwegiandoggo · 2020-07-25T14:36:10+00:00

The hole can only be filled by internal validation. That comes from you. Sleeping with someone else is external validation.

Fixing the hole comes down to this: Be kind to yourself

Forgive yourself. Be nice when you talk to yourself. Think positive thoughts about yourself and so on.

It also doesn't hurt to have a few secure attachments to other people in your life beyond just a one night stand.

yurifca · 2020-07-25T14:13:54+00:00

I know exactly what you feel, and I'm not sure I have the correct answer but i'll try to give you my two cents.

Relationships are not a saving balm that will cure your loneliness, I know several people that feel lonely even during a marriage with kids. For some time I thought that finding a gf was my solution, but eventually I realised that it wasn't. So I asked my self: "Lets suppose I have that great girl at my side, what would be my next move in life? What am I chasing now?" and started to do the other stuff I wanted to do with my life (learning Electric Guitar, boxing, studying more, trying to experience new things) , stuff I wasn't doing at all because I was completely obsessed with finding a partner.

This is a personal task that you need to tackle, you need to find something that fills your time (not girls tho) and makes you very excited and alive. You need a purpose, something that's bigger than having a hot 10/10 gf, something that will make wake you up sunday morning, something that's HARD but you will gladly do it because it feels nice.

The best part is, if you do find something that you love doing, you will not care about girls so much, and when that happens, you will have a lot more positive attention from those girls.

A lot of people have partners and relationships, very few people have a true purpose

KingThommo · 2020-07-26T00:40:54+00:00

I couldn’t give much of a fuck about women when I think of my life plans.

It’s all about intimacy anyway, you date to find someone you can be intimate with and maybe that leads on to a deep relationship etc etc.

So many of the people in this sub are just pathetic douches who obsess over their inadequacies and try to catch women in an attempt to escape their own lack of personality.

Chill___Dude · 2020-07-25T17:32:09+00:00

Check out David Tian, he has a lot of free cintent on pretty much exactly that.

hob814 · 2020-07-25T21:50:18+00:00

Get a hobby. Go out there find what you want to do in your free time and do it. That hole means that you have a lot of freetime and your wasting it away in meaningless stuff. Having a hobby can help you in that and it makes you better in relationships because you would have something your passionate about and can talk about it for hours.

rickyroyal37 · 2020-07-25T22:23:20+00:00

Find a higher purpose outside of yourself to devote yourself to. A pathway of mastery. Men need a mission to go after to motivate themselves to evolve into their highest potential. Growth = personal fulfillment. The secret to being an alpha isn't all the macho bullshit guys that feel powerless always regurgitate. It's really about being a tribal leader that gives value in some form to the group and he is rewarded by his "giving" as the leader that get the top choices.

Title	I know this place it about dating but do you guys know how you can heal that empty hole?
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Date	July 25, 2020 1:52 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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