I (22M) have never been in a relationship, have very high social anxiety, extremely skinny, introvert, would like advice please.

ZoobleBat · 2020-08-13T07:01:19+00:00

My 2c. Was your age in similar situation. Joined an good mma club. Still suck at mma but gained a lot of confidence.

2020-08-13T09:17:27+00:00

Read books, lift weights, eat healthy, repeat.

Either_Initiative_13 · 2020-08-13T09:54:02+00:00

Well just remember that attraction and seduction is preverbal right? Our ancestors have been doing it before they even learned language and learned to talk.

So let me ask you this. Let's say that you were the most seductive guy on the planet. How would you walk? How would you move? What would your mannerisms be like? How would you dress? How would you look at people with your eyes? (Check in the mirror).

Now, run simulations in your mind. You're completely comfortable in your own skin. Throw in some distractions.. a barking dog, a jealous boyfriend, a person interrupting. How do you react? Just observe.

Now write down a very basic script. Nothing fancy. One where you compliment her on her shoes, her eyes, her dress.. something specific. What happens next? Does this super confident hyper seductive guy that you are ask her about her day? Tell her about yours? Take quick notes as you see the conversation enfold in your mind. Do you ask her out for coffee first and then get her number?

Run several simulations in your mind in different places and scenarios. Study the way that u dress.. the way you apply and talk.. and finally how easygoing you are in the way you act.

2020-08-13T12:04:25+00:00

Bulk up and begin pursuing a career. These two things do so much good for your mental health. I'm not even bulking, just losing weight (I'm obese) and I'm already soaring in confidence.

kalz44 · 2020-08-13T13:11:20+00:00

Make friends first. Good friends will support you and lift you confidence. Have fun. That means find the things that make you happy/fulfilled and do them (video games and YouTube don’t count). Talk to girls when you see them. Start small and work you way up. Working out is important too but if you don’t like working out then you probably won’t stick to it.

Also you’re young. No one has their shit figured out at 22. Give yourself a break.

GrandMasterB19 · 2020-08-13T15:14:36+00:00

I posted a guide here a few days ago called "This is how you stop feeling creepy around women" which will probably be helpful to you. Also realize that introversion is in no way a setback in dating, it is only a setback in approaching. Understand the nuance here: You will have a harder time approaching and meeting girls and warming up to them, but once you do it will be much easier for you to really connect with them on a deeper level. So being introverted isn't holding you back, you just have to run a different style of game. You aren't the life of the party type and you aren't the socially anxious introvert either, you're the strong silent mysterious type.

As far as being skinny and gaining confidence and your other flaws, you need to ask yourself, "What will it take for me to feel like I'm good enough or attractive enough?" You can use self-improvement to fix what you can improve and use self-acceptance to change your perspective on the things you cannot change. Confidence is something that has to be developed.

quinnmcd · 2020-08-13T15:20:39+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like:

How do I approach?
How do I get a number?
How do I talk to girls at college?
How/When do I kiss a girl?
Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

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Charming_Anxiety · 2020-08-13T06:56:20+00:00

Fake your confidence or be upfront about being inexperienced. Create dating profile on app. Chat with women. Meet the ones you want.

Title	I (22M) have never been in a relationship, have very high social anxiety, extremely skinny, introvert, would like advice please.
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