Forgetting oneitis while entering monk mode?

imgonnabethegreatest · 2015-06-14T02:51:01+00:00

Spend as much time as possible occupied. Whether that be reading, studying, lifting, cooking a meal, whatever. Do it and your thoughts will be on your current activity and not her.

Oneitis is often made worse as you remain inactive and linger on the thoughts of her. The busier you are, the less time you have to think about her.

SkorchZang · 2015-06-14T04:14:23+00:00

If you still have her on your FB or other social media, or if you ever look at her old pics/emails, you will be a lot better if you cut all of that out. Think of it as going on a "zero that bitch diet" for your brain. If there are no new inputs, it will stew over the old stuff for a little while and then calm down: nothing new to stew over, everything has already been thought and re-thought a dozen times over. So it just quits, you don't even notice it at first - you just don't have any interest any more in thinking about the oneitis girl.

Doesn't always let go that easy, but it's a good start.

RocketManV · 2015-06-14T03:37:45+00:00

I can relate, I currently live at home with my parents. I was on monk mode for a year or so, while living at home.

Whatever reason it didn't work, feel that. Use it as a motivator. Most likely, it isn't salvageable. But you want a girl that is as good as she was, fuck that. Get better, and get someone better.

Monk mode is great. It's even easier when you live at home, but don't let that be an excuse. You can game while living at home, just take it back to their house.

CowardlyPetrov · 2015-06-14T11:12:15+00:00

My experience is that I will ALWAYS be thinking about women. I have a biological imperative to find women. That's why rebounding is important. I will think of the last girl I was with frequently, regardless of her quality, until I get to the next girl.

Therefore, I suggest putting some other worthwhile girl in your mind if you can't get over it.

OR.

What I have done which is just recognize that she'll be in my mind and get over it. I catch myself thinking about my oneitis and I just think, "Oh, right." and stop thinking about her.

You'll forget about her in time.

Title	Forgetting oneitis while entering monk mode?
Author	RedditThrowaway1193
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	June 14, 2015 2:33 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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