To the guys who got muscular, fit, or a Bodybuilder, did it help you with attracting women?

NCreature · 2020-08-20T23:02:23+00:00

Bodybuilder look probably not. But looking fit and in shape and having a bit of definition yea that most certainly helps. Like as much as you read all this nonsense about dad bods being sexy, you've never seen a Male strip show or hot firefighter calendar with dudes looking like that and no guy who has an actual dad bod is really cleaning up with women generally speaking. If you go to Vegas, I promise you none of the guys at Chippendales or Thunder From Downunder look like Jonah Hill. The guys that get most of the attention in terms of arousal are usually guys who are in shape. But I think guys overdo it and think that means you must look like a bodybuilder which is just wrong. It's the same thing women do with breast implants. Most guys are not in a place to be choosy about women's breast sizes, but a lot women sort of mistakenly believe that a boob job is the missing piece of the puzzle.

peaceglock · 2020-08-20T22:49:26+00:00

Woman POV... Body builder's are too big.

I've been with men and women who are fit (runners, swimmers, generally thin, but still strong enough to carry me) I've also dated men with "dad bods", men who were overweight... And one linebacker.

I am a tiny women, and the linebacker was just too big, couldn't wrap my legs around him. It wasn't fun, and I just ended up with hip pain.

Mxlanche · 2020-08-20T23:38:27+00:00

I think women see it as a nice feature to have. Most don’t go straight for muscular men. But I could be wrong.

svartfal · 2020-08-21T00:37:30+00:00

I agree with the other comments:

For most women the ideal body is more slender than men think it is. Something that conveys a healthy lifestyle and functional strength.

Bodybuilder physiques can imply the person is high maintenance and/or narcissistic.

Being fit has been a definite plus for me. Could be the side effects though. What I mean by that is, I know I look good naked so I carry myself differently which is likely more attractive than having the actual physique. There is more than looks that separates a fit person from a sedentary person, it probably ticks a bunch of boxes for women.

Women process our looks through a filter so different it’s impossible for men to understand.

For example, women are always, 100% of the time surprised when they see me shirtless. They’ll say “holy shit, you have muscles!” or something which implies they didn’t really notice or care that much how I was built when they made the decision to sleep with me.

By contrast I know just by looking at another man how I compare in terms of muscle mass, body fat, height, weight..

Imagine seeing a woman naked for the first time and going “wow, I didn’t realize you had nice breasts!”. No, we can see past their padded push-up bras, Lululemon pants and spanx as though we had x-ray vision.

On the other hand a woman can probably tell at a glance your approximate income level, education level, how much you take care of yourself and how confident you are at what you are doing.

I surmise gay men have more in common with straight men in this regard?

recyclablebanthas · 2020-08-21T02:21:16+00:00

This post violates Rule #5 regarding physical appearance: This whole issue has been litigated and re-litigated over the years enough that it's considered a settled issue. Appearance is a factor, but far from the only one and other factors can override it.

In the gay dating scene, it seems that being Muscular is the way to have a lot of success in dating

Everyone has their thing that they're into. Some people like muscles. Others don't. Some even loathe them. So it's pointless to try to position yourself to appeal to everyone. It's better to position yourself according to what you want to be like and the kind of people you want to attract.

This is the case whether we're talking about the gay or straight dating worlds.

Title	To the guys who got muscular, fit, or a Bodybuilder, did it help you with attracting women?
Author	AerisLore
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	August 20, 2020 10:43 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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