Why does getting a girlfriend seem impossible for me?

omulvey2 · 2020-08-27T00:33:24+00:00

The moment I began to not give a fuck about what anyone thinks of me the is the moment someone finally was interested in me. Life your life and prioritize your needs and the rest will seemingly fall into place

Stoner_skateboarder · 2020-08-27T02:04:20+00:00

Essentially you need to increase your market value as a potential suitor. This includes grooming yourself well: 1) try getting a new fresh haircut. 2) if you can grow a decent beard then do it but make sure you trim it and make it look nice. Also you should expand your hobbies and extracurricular activities. I know sounds counter intuitive right? But if you become a more well rounded person with many interests and stories to tell then you make yourself that much more interesting and girls will want to get to know more and more about you. One big thing that EVERY SINGLE GUY should do in my opinion is workout and build a good body. Facts are facts women like built muscular strong men and working out and staying in shape will make you look better, feel better, live longer and get more attention from girls.

GoldSmith64 · 2020-08-27T00:26:33+00:00

It’s not impossible. But learn to prioritize it less. This attitude you’ve displayed risks coming off as desperate and needy (no offence) and people will find that unattractive.

chingy1337 · 2020-08-27T03:21:51+00:00

Because you aren't confident in who you are

toyrph · 2020-08-27T04:05:37+00:00

Flirt with any and every girl you find attractive. Look for IOIs and don’t care too much about what others may think. Finding a way to give yourself a confidence boost might help. You’ll get the hang of it eventually

Dreadlich · 2020-08-27T04:24:35+00:00

Your focus is in the wrong direction my friend. Find ways to be happy within and of yourself, set goals, learn new things, do new activities.

I'm not saying you need to stop wanting a relationship, however if you shift your focus and stop prioritizing getting a relationship then it will (counter intuitively) make you more interesting and happier all the way around. People are attracted to happiness and confidence.

Being in a relationship should not be looked at as the holy grail, nor should they be taken for granted. They are a needed aspect for most people for mental health, however that need can be fulfilled with platonic friendship. You do not NEED a romantic relationship, I know it is tough to believe this and accept it.

I have a selection of books that go into detail as to how this works and it has in fact worked for me, I'm in a very enjoyable relationship. If you want a list just let me know.

quinnmcd · 2020-08-27T05:29:34+00:00

This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different:

A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept.
If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit.

No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you want to PM a mod to get their opinion on this thread, feel free to do so and they will still be able to weigh in.

For next time, remember that posts about a specific situational advice with a specific person are fine as field should be directed to Ask Seddit (/r/askseddit), not to be confused with Ask Reddit.

Title	Why does getting a girlfriend seem impossible for me?
Author	Creavey27
Upvotes	5
Comments	7
Date	August 26, 2020 11:29 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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