Accept them, and then realize that they are not you. Don't identify with them. How do you do that?

We all evolve throughout life. Phases we are skinny, phases we are fat.

Hobbies that we once were thrilled with are now boring.

Skills we once cultivated became dull and unused.

Even our PERSPECTIVES on the reality of the world, and life are constantly changing.

For instance, when you're a kid, you idolize your parents and think they have little flaws. As you grow up, you start to see more and more that nobody is perfect, and nobody deserves to be put on a pedestal. We are all dealing with the same intense bullshit.

Think about everything about you: everything is changing. Realize this, remember this. It is an ancient fundamental teaching from elders.

Why is that important? What does that mean?

You have no identity. No part of you is static. You're wrong (as am I) about 99% of the things you think about.

"This is bad. This is good. I like that. I dislike that."

All of these thoughts have led you to the situation you're in now. If you keep all of those thoughts, you will stay in your situation.

A millionare's thoughts got him/her to that situation, and he will stay there until he changes them. He won't become a billionaire unless he changes his perspectives.

We are always evolving. We are always changing. And because we are mostly wrong about everything, we can learn and change if we keep an open mind.

Realizing that we are wrong about everything is liberating.

Take a minute, and list 5 things that you know for ABSOLUTE SURE 100% and you can prove beyond all doubt. You probably can't list more than 2-3 things.

As Descarte (a foundational leader of western philosophy) said, the one and only thing he knows is that he knows. The rest of his knowledge is subjective perception. Nothing is real, nothing is happening, except for the fact he is experiencing something, he is conscious.

Now that we have established that YOUR THOUGHTS ARE NOT YOU, they are just a momentary thing you are experiencing (that can be easily changed, as we know everything is changing), you can accept them without identifying with them.

You aren't a fat slob, you're just experiencing the body of having extra weight. That is not you, it can easily change. So theres no problem with it. It's not you.

You aren't bad with girls. You're just experiencing anxiety. You can overcome it. Its not you.

Imagine this: There are two people crossing a river. They are two versions of yourself. One that has the utmost confidence, a clear mind, and he believes he can do anything.

The other is the same you, except he is in deep fear of being swept away by the river.

Both enhabit the same physical body, both have the same traits. The only difference is one is paralyzed with anxiety, while the other believes in himself.

The clearheaded man jumps across the river and makes it to the other side. He sees the other man that is scared, trembling, not wanting to cross the river. What does he say?

"I believe in you! You can do it! You're much more capable than you think you are! Look, I just crossed the river! I am you! The fear is just clouding your judgement! Fuck the fear, you're better than that, genuinely! I promise you, its all going to be okay, make the jump!"

How does he have that assurity? Because he's already crossed the river. And because he doesn't identify with his fear: he doesn't listen to the thoughts that are generated from it.

The man crossed the river... thats genuinely the actual reality of your world. You've already pushed through a ton of negative emotions. You've already accomplished much more you give yourself credit for. And I'm sure, in a good headspace, you could remember those events and give yourself the props. You'll realize that you're much more capable than what you think you are.

The only thing stopping you is your emotion and it's false lies. But deep down, you know you are not what your emotion is telling you. You know the fear is not telling you the truth. You know that even in a couple minutes the fear will fade, because everything is changing, and no emotion is permanent.

So, what does that mean? You can accept the fact that you are in fear. It means literally nothing. It doesn't impact your physical ability or self worth, all it does is whisper lies. But thats all good, you don't need to fight the fear. You don't have to believe what it tells you. It will go.

Trust in yourself, despite the fear. Know it's not you. That will give you the power to jump across the river. That will give you the power to change.

When you feel anxiety, know that you are no different than when you don't. The anxiety doesn't change how others see you. You are the same person when you're confident and when you're anxious. The only thing that makes you act differently is when you give your anxiety validation, and react to it. You believe its lies, try to fight it, it gets more intense, and in the end, you succumb to it.

Let it go. Accept yourself in all states. Fighting, repressing, and resisting your emotions will only make them stronger. Notice the emotion, and then don't react to it. Don't change your actions, thoughts, or intentions due to your emotion. They aren't you.

Love yourself in your lowest state as you do in your highest. Be proud of yourself in fear as you are in courage. Know that you can overcome them. You're the same person.

Lastly, understand that your current mindsets and beliefs are keeping you where you are. They're wrong. That is incredibly liberating, because if you're wrong, it means you can be a detective and figure out whats right. That leaves room for progression. That leaves room for hope

Love you guys, wish for the best.