Rejection is one of the things that happen like 80% of the time in dating and all other aspects of life. It's also a factor that makes a lot of men and women bitter and resent the opposite gender for many years.

And although it does hurt, rejection really isn't a big deal.

Here's some guidance to handle rejection better and to stop letting it crush your self-esteem and mental health:

  • You take it so personally because your sense of self-worth and confidence is derived from the opinion others have of you.

With that mindset, it's no wonder people feel bitter and resentful whenever they get rejected in dating. Especially when it happens a lot.

Of course you are going to feel worthless when you need other peoples approval to feel like a worthy individual.

Ideally, you approve of yourself and draw this confidence and self-esteem from within above all else.

  • Nothing bad actually happens to you when experiencing rejection.

You just think it's very bad because our brain interprets it as real, physical pain and because toxic & immature people online and offline make it this bad thing.

A good habit to get into when you get rejected is to practice presence and self-awareness.

Look at your hands, feel your heart beating and touch yourself. You will quickly notice that nothing harmful happened to you and that most of the pain you experience originates from your negative thought processes and certain self-limiting beliefs.

Your heart is still beating, your body is still fully functional and there is no physical wound whatsoever. Everything is exactly as it was before the rejection happened.

  • Remember that the one who rejected you really just wants the best for themselves.

And sometimes, you don't meet their requirements. That is okay.

Maybe you did something like acting needy and clingy, have different life goals or you aren't their type personality and looks wise.

People get rejected for these reasons all the time.

Even I sometimes ignore or reject attractive women because I just don't feel it. That doesn't make them any less though.

All it means is you met someone who doesn't like you and who you wouldn't like either.

  • Stop trying to avoid rejection.

'A decision made from fear is always the wrong decision' - Tony Robbins

Trying to avoid rejection is what makes a lot of men and women act needy and insecure and put on a mask. In their head, they picture how he or she will reject them well before they even met or interacted. They are focused on what can go wrong instead of what can go right because they are tired of getting hurt over and over again. But here is the deal:

All this comes from the self-limiting belief that you are not good enough.

And you must find the cause for it. You must ask yourself why you feel not good enough and why you fear rejection so much.

Sometimes its due to emotional traumas experienced in childhood or certain beliefs that formed early in your life.

Once you found the cause, you need to process and let go of it and then replace it with new supporting beliefs so you can genuinely feel good enough and no longer fear rejection.

  • Don't turn bitter, angry or abusive when it happens.

Many people are scared to reject men or women because the needy and insecure ones often react to rejection with violence and playing the victim.

They may start blowing up your phone, stalking and harassing you and simply not accepting your several no's.

Don't be this person.

Remember that nobody owes you anything. Neither are you entitled to another persons love, affection and attention.

If you really apply all this stuff, you will have a much easier time dealing with and moving on from rejection.

Namaste 🙏