So I am trying hard to pull, im 24 finishing my degree in computer science and i go to the bars every weekend. My friend tries to tell me things like comp sci majors don't pull. But im also fit, and comp sci majors aren't fit usually, I firmly beleive I can be whatever I want.

I'm Autistic and trying to master game, so I have to work twice as hard. What I am trying to do here is identify any vagueness between any social que so i can be completely honest and know the exact truth and use that to improve my game.

Anyway I on some occasions am approached by girls in the bar, I live out in the midwest where the bar is always super loud, we have a nice rooftop area though thats kind of chill.

Its a saturday afternoon and im approached by two girls.

The first girl I talk to is blonde cute, I am preoccupied with ordering a drink from the bartender and he says he didn't have a pitcher, while the girls talking to me trying to get shots and i have loud music blasting behind me. I am like ok, but im trying to multi task which i don't do well, he tells me they don't have the pitcher then im about to tell her im going to get a pitcher and will be back, maybe i should have asked her if she wanted to come downstairs to get her away from her freinds.

Anyway, her freinds while i was distracted trying to get my drink right, pulled her over to them, and at this point I wanted more alcohol to chill out a bit.

In the first situation, what could i have done differently?

Am curious, but the second situation is where I feel more strongly.

The second girl, I felt a bit bad about first girl but talked to a bunch of my freinds and had fun and had more to drink, then I went outside and she started talking to me. Told me that she met me like a year ago. I don't know if its feasible that she remembered me or not, but i remember her playing beer pong and thought of her a few times over the summer when i was quarantined, bored thinking on funner times.

Anyways, I asked her what she was doing and she said she was taking care of her friends after that. So i left it at that and went home.

If she is responsible for freinds, and approaching me randomly after not seeing me for a year, was it right of me to pretty much write that one off as probaly not, or should i have just asked her if she wanted to chill and get more to drink, because she wasn't buzzed at all.

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I wanted to go home with both of them, what could i have done differently to suceed, since they approached me I assume they were interested, but also doesn't mean they would have gone home with me.

Do you think I had a good chance with either girl, or it was just something that might have worked out and didn't.

At this point i try to gage whether or not its a good idea to ask her if she wants to go home before i ask her that, literally because the 2nd girl met me right after bar when i was going home, so to me that almost makes it seem like she wanted to go home with me, but she had to take care of her friends and girls i feel like would have made that very clear.

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In addition to this, I find I am having a problem with slowing down, because the bar is loud and exciting and i want to be hype, but also able to zone in on a girl and spend more time around her, I think that in some situations I am leaving before it gets personal to really get where i want to be. what are some tips to have a more prolonged conversation?

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I picked escalation and calibration as a flair because I want to be really in tune with however someone is feeling, and be able to ramp up conversations im having more and make them more personal.