I wanted to share this because no one really teaches us the roadmap on how to build new relationships and meet more people. Especially after college, this gets increasingly difficult. If you don't learn this now, you may start to feel hopeless down the line. Meeting people becomes a looooot easier once you have a simple strategy in place. This is it.

When I moved to San Francisco five years ago, I knew nobody.

On top of that, I was in a psychotic relationship I had just broken off, so I was also an emotional garbage can.

Today, things are much different, and I always have something to do (a lot of the people I met come from my social circle or an extension of it)

Here are a few things I did:

  1. "Instagram Closed" everyone and anyone I met, even if briefly.
  2. Said “yes” to every social situation, no matter how small or lame. (I’d say this is most important)
  3. Lightly invited myself to people’s events. “Oh, sounds fun! If you need a friend to go with, hit me up, bro.”
  4. Created Snapchat/Instagram stories so I could stay “top of mind” for people I was meeting. (I’d say this is second most important)
  5. Hopped on Tinder and befriended anyone before trying to close them. If things didn’t work out, I still wanted to be friends. Meeting new people was more important than sex at this point.
  6. Branched out by getting introduced to friends of friends. I started off with coworkers then branched out from there.
  7. Drastically lowered my “standard” for new friendships. If you're funny = you’re now my friend. That easy.
  8. Said “yes” to EVERY social situation. Yes, I’m repeating this one because it’s that important.
  9. Took up a social hobby. No new friends from this but it was nice to meet new people with a shared interest. I did Toastmasters, improv, and wine, tasting classes.
  10. Seriously seriously seriously leveraged social media to make it easy for old friends to stay in touch with me. I found that if people forget about you = your social life is done. I managed to rekindle old friendships and stay in touch with new people. Got invited to awesome weekend getaways in Lake Tahoe this way.

Tl:dr: leverage social media, say yes to everything, and make friends out of anyone (old tinder hookups, coworkers, the nerdy engineer at work).

Edit: updated Snapchat book link (it’s free); https://gumroad.com/l/mostconnected