Tips on getting with a girl whos in a shitty toxic relationship?

DapperDan365 · 2020-10-05T04:55:17+00:00

If she’s bitching about her current BF to you, someday she’ll be bitching about you to some other guy. It’s a pattern, and probably one she uses to get attention from men like you.

2020-10-05T04:55:59+00:00

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downstairslion · 2020-10-05T06:53:38+00:00

Respect yourself more than this. There are plenty of single women out there. You don't need to chase anyone unavailable. Toxic relationships are likely what she feels most familiar. Let her get out of it at her own pace. You can do better.

XXXinner · 2020-10-05T05:59:56+00:00

I'm sorry bro, but to tell you the truth, it seems like she's already set you up in the friendzone. She's not venting to you, but to other people while you're there, but even then, she's still using you like a friend. I mean, depending on the timeline of your friendship, if it's short, it can still be salvaged, but if you guys known each other for years, then you missed the window of opportunity. It's kind of hard to give you an advice for that Halloween event, because she does see you as a friend and any sort of approach is going to end up getting you rejected. Best thing to do is just be there, and have fun, maybe go talk to another cute girl that might be there at the event. If you really want her to see you differently, you got to stop engaging with her and do something else for yourself. After the event, maybe learn to play an instrument, volunteer somewhere, talk to other girls, etc., but do these things for yourself, not for her. You keep yourself preoccupied and away from her, she'll start to wonder where your at, and why you're not there anymore. A girl doesn't want to be with a guy who doesn't have anything going on with him. You have to understand though, this can turn however life allows it, she might find another guy, she might forget you, or, who knows, you could find someone better than her. If you asphyxiate yourself with her, then you'll just end up hurting yourself even more. You aren't meant for one girl, but you are meant for some girl. I'm sorry if this isn't what you're looking for, but this is the hard truth that EVERYONE needs to face and understand.

This0neTime23 · 2020-10-05T06:26:59+00:00

I'm a fan of going after what you want no matter other people's advice. Just make some suggestive comments and see if she bites, if you already think she's down what do you have to lose? This kind of stuff depends on how perceptive you are, where sure some guys see possibility where there isn't any and guys smack off the rose colored glasses by informing them that they've been friendzoned. However, if she's showing signs then she's showing signs. Live it up and be bold

Alex_O7 · 2020-10-05T10:33:19+00:00

What you don't want to do is to say her how shitty her relationship is. It may be counterintuitive but it will work better the long term. Instead tell her is bf should not be that bad if they are together. Let her think about her situation by herself, or if you openly say that you don't like him she will defend him. Don't be shy if she actually says good thing about him, take them as advice because that are the things she likes about him and you want to imitate them!

You are in the friendzone and right now she didn't see you as a person with a penis so you have to change that. You have the help of a common friend, so you rather have to ask her to help you with her instead of your friend pushing you. You don't need another person to put pressure on you, if she cannot help you that way ask her to step back on this matter.

Then you have to show yourself more and more as a man and less and less like a friend. Never say directly you like her until she is in a relationship. Never make moves on her until she is in a relationship, unless it is her to initiate.

tibles20 · 2020-10-05T13:47:54+00:00

If she's not happy in her ì wòuld talk to her and listen to her feelings then when she breaks up with him ask her out

Title	Tips on getting with a girl whos in a shitty toxic relationship?
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Date	October 5, 2020 4:26 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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