How do you deal with women who won't stop talking?

[deleted] · 2015-06-23T14:13:12+00:00

I know what you mean. It's hard to find a girl who has something interesting to say even for a few hours. Nothing is worse than someone who has nothing interesting to say and won't stop talking!

I've experimented with not using attentive words like 'ok', 'really?', and 'wow'. Then just stare at them and imagine fucking them. Wait until they stop talking, pause a long period, and redirect the conversation in a very very slow words while blatantly escalating kino.

This contrasts with what most people will do to get a word in with them- getting louder, interrupting, supplicating, engaging words without sexualizing, talking faster because of a fear they won't get their two cents in.

I wish this worked with my family or with multiple women but it doesn't. Isolate.

masterrod · 2015-06-23T12:25:11+00:00

Well, if it's your family there's not much you can do.

They way you describe this you are listening to their conversations and you're aren't involved in them, so just change your response? Why do you feel the need to control what someone does?

JackGoldsteinWrites · 2015-06-23T13:32:26+00:00

With my g/f : "Silence is golden."

Out in public... I try to avoid large crowds. 99% of what is said does not need to be said.

wont_tell_i_refuse · 2015-06-23T18:32:08+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMRdxiCRJbs

MentORPHEUS · 2015-06-23T19:16:09+00:00

Don't fall in love with a tweeker!

But seriously, this is a frequent problem I deal with. I'm a man of few words, so I'm not a match for compulsive chatterers-about-nothing.

I had a GF who would just randomly say trivial things during movies, shows, or symphonies. Nothing important EVER, she would just blurt out random thoughts that popped into her head at the moment they did so; no filter or consideration for what else was going on. I pointed out that she's missing important plot points in the show that was on, and it takes 10X longer than her interruption to get part way caught back up, if at all. Her response, "Oh, I'm not watching the program, its like background noise to me." Total solipism; because SHE is not paying attention, she couldn't understand anyone else being upset that THEIR attention and investment in the program was demolished over nothing.

The only solution I found was to replace her with a more sensible woman.

RPthrowaway123 · 2015-06-23T15:35:35+00:00

A question asked by men through the ages! I would agree that directing the conversation is the best way.

workdavework · 2015-06-23T18:50:19+00:00

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What is this?

SaintMarinus · 2015-06-23T18:56:02+00:00

I have a coworker who is like this. Whenever I step in her office to ask her a question or give her information she will carry on the conversation for years. Come to think of it, the majority of my female coworkers do this.

I typically go in and say my shit, listen to the response and leave. The problem is the response drags on. So once she finishes telling me the information I need, I say thank you and I leave. Thats it. There has been a noticeable change in the last month since I started doing this. They're reading conversational cues with me and no not to drag on conversations.

EDIT: I read one of your comments about how women are constantly talking and gossiping within earshot of your desk. Here is some advice. Don't give a shit. Often times women will do this just to gauge your interest in them and see if you're paying attention to their needless bullshit. Women thrive off of gossip. They can't live without that shit.

Story Time

When I was 17 I worked in a restaurant as a host. Myself and one other waiter (Zach I think was his name) were outnumbered by women. He was a former service member and pretty jacked. He was the epitome of alpha. If you've ever worked food service before, you'll know that there are no bigger gossipers than waitresses. One day I was "gossiping" with the waitresses about another employee. Zach overheard and pulled me aside. He straight up told me Men don't gossip, cut that shit out. Big gut check, thankful that happened to me. Moral of the story, ignore the bullshit and focus on yourself and your work. Hold your frame in conversations and only say what needs to be said. When a woman has given you the information you need but still wants to talk, politely say thank you and walk back to your desk. It is also important to remember Don't shit where you eat. No need to engage in small talk with your coworkers.

SilentForTooLong · 2015-06-23T12:02:37+00:00

You deal with it by holding frame and leading the conversation. You should be doing most of the talking.

Don't get me wrong, I'll converse if there's a point and its an interesting topic, but recently I find myself unable to escape the CONSTANT banal talking.

Look, women have shitty conversations. Having no accountability has left them without any meaningful life experiences or necessary knowledge and it rarely comes out well. If your standards are too high then you're just gonna end up alone. You can help this by leading the conversation as opposed to being led but conversation will never be a woman's strongsuit.

plenkton · 2015-06-23T19:16:45+00:00

Depends if the size of your dick vs the size of her mouth.

Title	How do you deal with women who won't stop talking?
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Date	June 23, 2015 11:52 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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