I probably already know the answer to this, but I want to run it by my Bro's here in the Men's room….

The facts

Me: 40, over weight, burnt out at my job, 2 weeks into The pill, former beta as fuck.

The wife: 41, not as overweight, has higher paying job, virtually no interest in sex with me (understandable now that I know why)

The story:

The wife was my high school crush, I chased her for years, Eventually gave up went our separate ways. Met up about 10 years ago when I was drunk and cocky.. been together ever since…sex was never amazing, but it's been getting worse as time goes on.

We got married because she wanted to "move forward" and I didn't want to "lose her". Like a fucking fool I thought this would change things in the bedroom. HA! Bought a house but no kids (THANK GAWD).

So here is the deal:

I have come to find out that my wife has some kind of abuse/issue/weirdness in her past that I don't know about. This has made her awkward about intimacy. pretty much of ANY kind. She won't even tell me what happened…I know it has to do with her parents getting divorced when she was a little girl..

She's always been shy, never super outgoing, becomeing more and more introverted…never dresses sexy, never acts overtly flirty, never really showed much interest in attracting an "alpha"...Whatever this baggage is seems to be the heart of it...

She's successful on her own, she's independent, she's has her hobbies and I have mine. She has never really been clingly but also never over affectionate.

My question is, will a Red Pill Strategy make any real lasting change in my relationship with this woman? Or am I better off beginning my exit strategy?

one way or another the Self-Improvment has already started. I just want to know if I'm wasting my time staying with a woman that won't follow me no matter what.

Thanks in advance