Pushed hard on a tinder date. She didn’t want to have sex but she said she wanted a long term relationship. Did I mess up?

2020-11-01T14:03:12+00:00

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Ok_Interest_7204 · 2020-11-01T05:57:36+00:00

It sounds like she’s being extremely cautious (trauma or simply shyness) and maybe inexperienced. It’s up to you whether you keep playing her game and patiently pursue her, but were you smitten by this girl?

bipolarearth123 · 2020-11-01T06:00:09+00:00

It sounds like alot of the friction is with her which means you have a chance at helping the situation by being patient and honest. She wouldn't be nervous unless A) this is the first time she is trying to branch of from her comfort zone AND/ OR B) she really sees something special in you and is careful about jeopardizing a good thing

My guess is a little bit of both and this is your chance to message her and say something along the lines of "hey,i really like you and i want to know what your honest opinion of me is and what you think about at least our near future (no rush btw, i know we just met so take your time with your answer)"

joelskees · 2020-11-01T06:01:37+00:00

Sounds like you pushed hella hard for sex on the first date, I mean Jesus reading this story sounded like the woman's testimony from the metoo movement That testified against Aziz Ansari about how he pressured her into sex.

McToastyBro · 2020-11-01T06:00:46+00:00

Nigga, what’s the issue? Lol. Y’all made out after you said that stuff. She gave you her number. She also texts you instead of ghosting. Tf more you want? Lol y’all gonna fuck soon

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