American born Indian dating in America

2020-11-29T21:32:53+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like:

How do I approach?
How do I get a number?
How do I talk to girls at college?
How/When do I kiss a girl?
Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

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aluminiumaorta · 2020-11-29T15:31:08+00:00

Please don't fall into the trap of blaming life's hardships and unfairness on things we cannot change, king. Women have preferences. As do we. We are accountable for what we are and who we are. Being your best is the key to your life. My friend who is Sikh is a machine at clubs. He hooks up with a girl(or 2!) everytime. He's obviously Indian in appearance. But he's very fit, lifts weight , got big. Girls love him. We wasn't always this way. He learned. It is my understanding that when it's said "Indian" is least desirable it refers to the behaviour of Indian men toward Western women. Just learn the game as it's played here. Women here love us brown men. Use it to your advantage....

snkhuong · 2020-11-29T19:48:58+00:00

Don't believe the other "political correct" comments below my dude. Yes if you're not white or black it will be significantly harder for you on the dating scene. That is a FACT.

Other comments below blame you for your insecurity, but literally just create a fake tinder profile with the best indian looking guy you know and compare that with an above average white guy, you will see a huge difference in the number of matches and likes.

That said just because it's hard doesn't meean it's impossible. You just need to work twice or three times as harder. I've seen indian guy with really fit girls before (although is very rare).

Also my comment will get downvoted for sure so PM me if you want more advice before it disappears lol

2020-11-29T17:35:13+00:00

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SadKnight123 · 2020-11-29T20:51:31+00:00

It doesn't matter if it's true or not. You gain nothing from this mindset. It will bring you absolutely nothing other than misery, insecurities, depression and sadness. Doesn't matter who you are, or how you look. You can always get better and be better. It's true that white people (both men and women) are perceived as the best looking people in the world by media wich maked them more desirable for the general population (years of Hollywood, tv shows and games have done this), but it shouldn't matter at all. All that matters is your inner confidence and security. Get your focus entirely on this. This is far more important than looks (although it also has its place) and is the whole reason you see ugly low life dudes dating pretty girls from time to time. In fact, I advise you to complete ignore the way you look. Stop caring about it and giving energy to this thoughts.

Workout as way to be stronger, healthier, faster, better but don't obsess about muscles (treat them just as a consequence of your active lifestyle). The girl can have a preference and a type (just like you), but what will attract them the most is your energy and your confidence in yourself (your masculinity too is a atractive trait). You'll still get rejected, tho. But avoid thinking this is because your "ethnicity" (rejection is inevitable no matter how handsometou are). Don't give a shit for what you cannot control, and move on to the next.

This goes for all kind of commom insecurities people may have in life like: small dick, short height, nasty scars, baldness and etc. All that matters is your security on yourself. Stop caring about what you cannot change and live life doing your best with the tools you got. Maybe it will be harder for you than for a tall, handsome, white dude, but who cares?? Good for him. Embrace the suck and move on. There will still be plenty of available chicks for you, that will like you.

And you only live once... Life is too short to be wasted on self pity and thinking about unfairness.

Even tho I'm not Indian, I talk all of this as someone who have my on share of insecurities. I'm not that pretty, I ain't tall and have a collection of nasty stretch marks all over my body from my previous years of being overweight.

Vainglory27 · 2020-11-29T15:52:47+00:00

Takes time. Your truly young it only gets better with age as you work on yourself.

Get out of the blame the world game.

Work out, take on interesting hobbies, save money. Move out of your parents home, live with some strangers/friends who get laid. Get a good paying job. Stop playing video games. Take on hobbies that have more of the other sex. Painting, volunteering, go to the library, second language groups, etc.

Do 100 cold approaches.

Don't fret you can do it! your age is working against you. Realize your dating pool is actually substantially small. Only girls that find you optimal are younger but that only leaves girls 17-19. When your 25 you have 18-25. And all older guys have edges on you.

White guys have inherent advantages I agree mostly they grow up with more confidence. But you have skills to that pay dividends later.

2020-11-29T16:03:49+00:00

It is not your race/ethnicity it is your attitude. People will hook up with anyone as long as they think they are attractive (not reddits way of thinking of attractive). So work on your fundamental's, get good at talking to woman and then learn how to close more efficiently.

2020-11-29T19:54:40+00:00

I totally relate to you my bro.

It’s all in your mindset my bro. Just choose to present your best self regardless of your ethnicity. Show that you’re the King 👑

No matter what my bro !!! You don’t need tonnes of girls for you to be one.

Keep going with a growth mindset. Things will fall into place . Trust me from experience if girls don’t wanna associate themselves with you because of your ethnicity show them what their missing out. Heaps of fishes in the sea.

Go to the gym, meditate, up skill yourself. Learn by initiating conversations just to anyone. Start your self improvement journey .

Show them who the fuck you are 🦁

(Ps Once you come to a point where you’re far into your self improvement journey. Your insecurities will fly away. You only know what actually matters . Girls , All this club lifestyle is not real !!!

Title	American born Indian dating in America
Author	Parpatel0
Upvotes	8
Comments	10
Date	November 29, 2020 2:36 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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