If your main problem is working up enough courage to even talk or ask a lady out then what you need is more exposure.

Im talking about going out there and taking more risks in generall. Apply for that promotion, drive a little faster, say something back to that one person who is always talking down on you, if you work out go a little harder, get that haircut you've always wanted, etc.

Eventually your going to have to start taking real risks like lets say you've been thinking about joining the armed forces, do it, serve, do your time, you will grow as a aversion.What if you just want to start a business, do it. Get out there network, ask for help, get started. Apply for loans, get rejected or not. You will grow as a person here too.

Maybe even start that hobby you've always thought about, drag racing? Mountain bike? Go snowboarding? Do it!

After a time of doing these things asking out a lady will seem like you are doing her the favor. You will have grown as a person naturally. This is how its supposed to be. It seems that the really issue when it comes to lck of confidence is self recognition of poor performance in life. You can't fix that by pretending or with little hacks that doesn't take you very far.

Another thing is friends help a lot, include them, you dont have to tell them what your up to but they sure will like this process too. If not then maybe other friends will.

If anyone wants, say what risk you will be taking in the next week month or so.

TLDR: Taking more risks and following through to completion will make you grow as a person enough that seducing the ladies will be a more natural process.