Syndrome of the Chill Girl (23F)

2020-12-13T21:29:49+00:00

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tulipetulipe · 2020-12-13T19:57:46+00:00

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2020-12-13T19:17:27+00:00

Go for an open relationship

ToastForMila · 2020-12-13T19:26:01+00:00

Friends with benefits is probably the best route. I’m in your same position. While I don’t want a relationship currently (enjoying my freedom/options in a new city, too busy to give a spouse the attention they probably deserve), I crave a slightly deeper connection than simply using someone else to get the satisfaction of having sex. I know a lot of people say this but it’s best to communicate what you want, and eventually you’ll find someone who understands/wants something similar.

I think it helps that I still actively “date” my FWBs. We don’t just have sex and part ways after, we’ll at the very least have coffee or do a couple drinks together. We often check on each other, occasionally do dinner and catch up on life things. But we certainly give each other space and the option to say “not tonight” and casually date other people. It’s key that there’s a mutual understanding that while each person involved doesn’t want a relationship, that we’re both human and have feelings/needs outside of body part + body part = feel good. The key is to reciprocate what each other is putting out. Don’t like what someone is putting out? Congrats, you’re single and there are plenty of other people to come across. The world is your oyster.

Traditional-Nose4568 · 2020-12-13T20:01:20+00:00

Screen men better and practice standing up for yourself more often. Could you potentially aim to meet people in person other than on dating apps? I have a feeling that these apps draw very certain kinds of people to them. (I know it’s hard in these times...)

tulipetulipe · 2020-12-13T19:08:08+00:00

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SnapSocialGuru · 2020-12-13T19:29:43+00:00

What are some examples of them doing whatever they want and you brushing it off? Or what’s giving you the feeling that you’re being used?

Title	Syndrome of the Chill Girl (23F)
Author	tulipetulipe
Upvotes	3
Comments	15
Date	December 13, 2020 6:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/kcfbul/syndrome_of_the_chill_girl_23f/
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