What should I(18M) do?

AlwaysLearningWork · 2021-03-22T22:27:06+00:00

"Everybody says like you gotta wait, it'll come by itself. Nah bs. For some people maybe, but not for me and a lot of other guys."

How do you know? You're 18 for saying it out loud. The people who are older than you and say those things, they say it because they've experienced it.

Your problem is not this girl, but your low self-confidence, self hate, and anxiety. Not all of that is in your control, with your OCD and all, but this girl is not what you want to be pursuing right now.

First you gotta accept that you don't know this girl, and you probably just like her because of her physical appearance. That's ok! But there are many beautiful girls out there, so getting fixated on one is well, a bad place to be. The only way you'll find out if she's into you, is to tell her, but since she's not responding to your messages I'd honestly just let it go.

Second, you're already very successful in life. Earning more than your teachers is one hell of a feat at 18. You have something to be proud about more than almost anyone at your age.

I'd suggest something like this:

You gotta work on your confidence / self-esteem. And there's no easy fix. It's different for everyone, but some people have success with working out, hanging out with people who share their hobbies, pushing themselves out of their comfort zone etc.
You should learn about attraction in general. I'd suggest reading "Models" by Mark Manson, or if you're a lot more analytical in mind, How to be a 3% Man, by Corey Wayne.
You gotta understand that there are thousands of girls out there that are great for you, and as long as you, a pretty successful and sporty guy, just own it and muster up some confidence, you won't have trouble finding a relationship.

I will admit though, I don't know enough about OCD to say how much it impacts dating, so maybe if some OCD people could chime in that could be cool. But since you're managing it sort of well with sport, I'd say keep trying to manage it as well as you can.

I barely had any success with girls in high school and I'd be lying if I say it wasn't a bit bummed about it. But since I've had many wonderful experiences and yeah, better late than never I suppose? I'm only 22 but I still have a lot of youth ahead of me. You got even more time, if you start now. We have to simply focus on the things in life we can change, as opposed to what we cannot change.

Good luck broski

Steve77307 · 2021-03-22T23:30:20+00:00

I'm surprised at the similarities. You remind me alot of myself when I was a sophomore in HS (I'm 29 now). I also have a form of OCD. I'm going to presume your also the introverted techie type who is very smart but lacking in the social skills (you say you sell apps).

There was a girl in my biology class I had a crush on, but had a hell of a time getting myself to talk to. I would write long pages in my Journal about how disappointed I was in myself. I think people with OCD are naturally critical of themselves, their actions, and their failures. Obsessing over girls is no exception.

While I have not met you or know anything else about your story, I'll do the best I can.

Your very concerned with what people think about you. You learn to tame that as you get older. In the meantime, it makes it very hard to talk to people in general and especially girls. If social skills is an issue, I would advise talking to a certain amount of people each day. Try to remove your filter. Its ok to say the wrong thing sometimes, people will usually forget about it anyway. You can always apologize later.

I highly recommend looking up daygame on youtube. This has helped me improve myself a lot, and opened many new opportunities.

Don't worry too much about your appearance. Girls don't care about that as much as guys. If it needs work though try to improve it. Maybe go to the gym, there's alot of hot girls there.

For the OCD thing, I don't know what kind of issues you have. Realize that nothing is going to happen if you don't act on these thoughts. The best way is to distract yourselves with something else.

You managed to get her friended on FB so that's a big plus. I tried friending my old crush on FB but had no luck. If you miss your opportunity now, you might be able to get with her later once your a little older and have more experience.

Lastly, start finding a girlfriend now. Cause the older you get the more girls your age will be married off. Then you'll end up being one of those 30 something cradle snatchers.

Steve77307 · 2021-03-26T02:22:33+00:00

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Title	What should I(18M) do?
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Date	March 22, 2021 9:51 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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