If the answer is no, you should stop saying it; it's most likely coming from a place where you're only trying to adhere to their needs and enjoyment. As a result, you have a lack of state, a lack of enjoyment and whether you fuck her or not it will always be a tough uphill stretch.

Once you say and do things you enjoy, rejection and acceptance will dissolve and there will be continuous fun interactions. It's fucking great, dating/seduction is meant to be fun.

However, you should gauge the other persons looks, energy, atmosphere. As they may not relate or enjoy some of your value therefore you can change up the value and mix and match until you find common ground. This is where hot-cold and push-pull comes into play.

When I state my intention now it comes from a place of enjoyment it never feels forced. It's fun and genuinely enjoyable. It helps ease the tension and panic of it. It's always in a way that's fun, passionate or carefree for me.

I'm not sure I have much more to say on this topic, my main point is- do things because they make YOU feel good, then find the common ground. It's not a win-win situation if you're losing. So, I genuinely hope someone finds value in this piece. I referenced men-to-women here, but this applies to women heavily- a woman who can have fun and understands how to be relatable is deadly.