I’m writing this on behalf of my experiences as a 31 year old male who has in the last year researched men’s rights and this growing misogynistic/ toxic-masculine culture we all seem to so quickly be defined as.

I work in the British military, covered in tattoos. Built and confident, I’m adding this not to start a dating bio but to give you a very brief understanding of who I am and hopefully how I can be perceived.

These are only a couple of events that led me too look into these groups.

1)

While working away in America me and a group of friends had been falsely accused by a group of women for spiking one of there drinks. After the initial shock of being surround by large hill billy bouncers we began to almost laugh at the sheer lies that had been told about us. Altho once we complied and they realised we were British military they simply let us go. But I asked, are you not going to kick them out ? Where is this drink we had spiked ? Who was it ? The response was “no we’re not, it’s them over there” (pointed at a group of girls)”the drink had been poured away”. I couldn’t believe it, anyway. Later in the night a friend got talking to one.. I know. And she admitted they made it up and just wanted to kick us out and that they do it all the time. I was fucking fuming so without a word said I left.

2)

In short a ex GF had me arrested 7 months after I left her due to her using her own mental health against me. Threatening to kill herself if I left her, using my dog, my car against me. Until eventually I had too After months of abuse.
Again, 7 months down the line I get a knock at the door and I’m arrested on suspicion of ABH. My EX had completely fabricated a story together which had close to ZERO evidence but due to her Oscar winning performance I had to go through solicitor fee’s in the thousands, during this time a tick tok account made involving my full name was made and surprisingly added her (going against my bail conditions, not to contact her ). This wasn’t me but again I was further arrested. My mental health took a decline, I stopped sleeping. I was so angry and upset that someone could do this to me because I didn’t want to be with them. I spent all my savings on a solicitor, all my time trying to tell work what’s going on. Some believed me some didn’t. But ultimately when this was thrown out at the CPS stage it didn’t feel like a victory for me. It felt like I had been dragged through the town with everyone mocking me. Everyone believing this women that could change her emotions in a heart beat. I’m recovering from this as type.

Now I’m not perfect by any means but I have morales. I felt like I was guilty before proven innocent. Nothing benefited me. My phone was taken, I was put in cells multiple times and not once did I raise my voice, not cooperate, do as I’m told. I listened and acted accordingly, my actions then had me described by a female officer as ‘acting cagey’ due to my yes no style of answering. I explained I felt they had already judged me so I felt like I had to defend myself. I found every word I said was broken down and split up into sections.

Have others had things like this happen ?

I have no trust in women at the moment and I’m frankly scared of the idea of a relationship. Thanks for reading.