Does anyone do affirmations?

edwardhwhite · 2015-07-24T17:55:40+00:00

I have to deal with toxic shame from a BP mom and a blue pill dad that did nothing to stop the abuse. So when I am out and I feel the toxic shame come on, I tell myself "despite the shame I am running tight game." The idea is that I will never let that shit get in my way again. It works.

friedchodegolgafrinc · 2015-07-24T18:34:49+00:00

The problem with affirmations is that just saying them is less effective than believing in them. When you say that affirmation you gotta believe otherwise it doesn't change your mood.

For an exercise let's use IDGAF. Why IDGAF? because for most of the negative nancies it's hard to ridicule IDGAF and it won't lose the emotional power. Stand in front of a mirror and say I don't give a fuck. Repeat that. While in front of the mirror you will absolutely feel ridiculous and want to run away because what you are doing is so stupid. Let that feeling wash over you because obviously you are still giving fucks. repeat "I don't give a fuck" say 4 or 15 more times until that stupid embarrassed feeling goes away.

Realize that feeling of embarrassment is temporary and that fear of that feeling is what is preventing you from even stepping out the door. (this can also be why some OCD people have their ritual's before they step out the door. Look up Howard Stern OCD)

TL:DR Affirmations are mild psychological reprogramming to help overcome inhibiting emotions.

ScottRikkard · 2015-07-24T19:16:17+00:00

Yes I do them. Yes they work. Yes they only work if consistent and if you try to believe them (even if you think its bs).

There are ways to bypass our conscious mind which objects them some times via feelings of in-congruency.

questions - Why am I the baddest alpha now? Who defines me? Where is my Power? Who can change my emotional states? (it makes you search for reasons why you be alpha son, and everyone has some believe me).
recording it and listening before sleep, even sleeping with them playing on earphones. (record it like this - You are the baddest alpha around)
deep relaxation before reading them. IT is most important thing. Relaxation. It lowers the defenses of Conscious mind.

It's funny our consciousness is defending some beliefs we were not born with, like belief in lack of pussy, belief in undeserving-ness, belief in lack of personal power to change.

I use them and I dont see other way to change beliefs. Though I dont sit around, I approach whenever I see smth I like. I would say affs work wonders for frame.

The thing is, when not doing them, dont try to force them, just relax, you will soon see things change in your reactions with people and women.

You gotta ''enter the mood'' which aff suggests. So a good thing is to ask yourself - How would I feel If I were the most Powerful Man of All Time? Then repeat that question and observe your perception of Yourself and World, change.

RemyPrice · 2015-07-24T23:31:03+00:00

My Daily Affirmation:

Rising from the ashes like a Phoenix,

I am focused outward in service.

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My mission: to impact the people around me.

I am the possibility of ruthless compassion.

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Small daily victories create my cornerstone habits.

Automated systems create my future success.

I am the possibility of relentless inspiration.

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I will answer this question:

How much impact can one man have before he dies?

Inside the answer lies the secret to a life fulfilled.

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~Jan. 2015

1NV0K3R · 2015-07-24T17:49:17+00:00

Jesus christ...

btharmony · 2015-07-24T17:07:25+00:00

can you explain what an affirmation is? (RP is digesting for me currently)

RPthrowaway123 · 2015-07-24T21:59:47+00:00

They can help , in my opinion, to reestablish a positive image of yourself and build self-esteem.

RPmatrix · 2015-07-25T03:18:07+00:00

It's well proven that 'affirmations' do work, just not with everybody all the time ... a bit like 'placebos' and 'faking it till you make it' ,, they are a tool to 'reprogram your mind' into thinking differently

The whole 'concept' of 'reprogramming' one's 'wetware' is now called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It is now accepted that our brains are very 'plastic' and can 'rewire' themselves when needed.

What is CBT?

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) is a relatively short term, focused approach to the treatment of many types of emotional, behavioural and psychiatric problems. The application of CBT varies according to the problem being addressed, but is essentially a collaborative and individualised program that helps individuals to identify unhelpful thoughts and behaviours and learn or relearn healthier skills and habits.

CBT has been practised widely for more than 30 years. It has been researched extensively, and has demonstrated effectiveness with a variety of emotional psychological and psychiatric difficulties.

It is also continually evolving, and third wave CBT therapies such as Mindfulness Based Cogntiive Therapy (MBCT), Acceptance and Committment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), Schema Therapy and others are increasingly being used for a variety of emotional, behavioural and psychiatric problems

IME affirmations work best when written down, looking at yourself in the mirror doing the 'self talk' thingy, Hollywood style is close to useless as a part of you is thinking 'this is bullshit' -- and so it wont work, as Bro friedchodegolgafrinc explains so well in his post, unless you can get past that 'silly feeling'

As another poster mentioned, YOU must believe it for it to work, which is why writing it down instead of just saying it helps achieve results faster (in a way, you're "studying" it) with 'more' of your mind, talking is FAR easier than writing, and your brain notices this and steps up to handle the task

In fact "praying" is a type of 'affirmation" (although I doubt it's validity)

TL:DR Yes they work, Here is some great information about CBT

go hard bro, whatever your goal is, and all the best

m

DanielHo1992 · 2015-07-25T00:29:06+00:00

It works when I'm tired enough to believe any sort of bullshit. Otherwise, it doesn't.

primevalist · 2015-07-24T19:27:12+00:00

Forget affirmations, NLP and repetition. Rebuild yourself to be the man you want to be. Instead of faking confidence, build it. Invest time and effort in becoming who you want to be physically, mentally and financially.

Title	Does anyone do affirmations?
Author	kookoobear
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Date	July 24, 2015 5:03 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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