Do you guys smile?

RPSigmaStigma · 2015-07-24T19:51:52+00:00

A lot of pickup advice, especially of the more "asshole game" variety will discourage smiling. And I think for good reason, but you have to understand some context. One of the reasons smiling gets discouraged is because a lot of guys getting in to pickup are eager, try-hard, reaction-seeking people pleasers who have a very fake, exaggerated smile. A smile that betrays deep underlying insecurities and incongruities, making them seem low value at best, and outright creepy at worst.

So the advice, especially in some of the older or more simplistic pickup literature has been to not smile, or only smile in very specific circumstances.

I disagree with the advice to not smile, but I definitely agree with the reasoning. The trick is to be congruent. You need to put yourself in a mood that actually makes you smile, and not to force it in a reaction-seeking way.

Edit: here's a great video from Tyler on congruence and why it's so important.

The guys at RSD put a lot of focus on generating positive emotions from within and being congruent. I highly recommend looking in to them, especially Tyler's freetour videos.

DOCTORxTEETH · 2015-07-24T19:11:53+00:00

I smile all the time. Just don't smile like Ed. Women love my imperfect smile. Used to know this girl, she used to tell me how goofy I was because I smiled all the time. Fucked her multiple times.

MeatCurtainRod · 2015-07-24T22:35:44+00:00

Speaking to one of your female patients, and picking up chicks at a bar, are totally different things. You can't use the same technique for both situations. As you speak to your patient, you are in a position of power and knowledge, to help them with their sad issues. A welcoming person is key for success and goes a long way to helping them.

You must understand that in a situation where you are not conversing with a patient, the position of power is dramatically shifted. There is a point where a smile comes off as an insecure over-pleasing puppy dog little boy.

Example: walk around with this permanently stuck to your face, you will have a bad time.

wont_tell_i_refuse · 2015-07-25T06:29:32+00:00

I have a great smile. I am just some other guy until I break out that boyish charm. My game is being a happy, fun, super-intelligent motherfucker. It goes against what some Internet yahoos have to say about women like, but it's my game.

I dunno man, in my opinion technical questions like this are basically silly. It's your shit. What gets you laid? Do that.

evilquesadilla · 2015-07-24T19:02:48+00:00

People like to be around other people that are having a good time. Smile is good, as long as it's an open and friendly smile, not a pervy, creepy, or goofy smile.

Lumberjack1234 · 2015-07-25T21:33:03+00:00

ScottRikkard · 2015-07-24T18:56:19+00:00

Not being goffy, but a smile that says ''pleasantness and safety'' is a good start. Coupled with deeper voice, it makes them feel safe. I always approach with a slight smile, a ''bright face''. It developed with time, I am not conscious of it unless I try to remember. It's something that becomes automatic after few dozen approaches.

It portrays a charming man, sure of himself, who knows what he wants and is not afraid to tackle it.

When not smiling, it's easy to scare a girl with day game approaches, that happened too lol. Keep the mean-muggin' for men.

I mean, this is all funny, this life, our gaming women, it's a funny adventure, with that in mind, you will smile with ease. Good luck man.

primevalist · 2015-07-24T19:30:29+00:00

Smile is important, but use it with moderation. Learn to smirk. In sexual context, smile is a smirk.

Title	Do you guys smile?
Author	Zeparic
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	July 24, 2015 6:28 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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