This has happened in the past, I’ll be dating or just starting to talk with someone, and my imagination will take things that are real or she said, and will expand on them tenfold

“Oh I like art films” and my mind will start thinking about how we’ll have an indie movie date then have sex and talk about our favorite films post coitus

“Yeaah I want you to show me your music” and my mind will start racing and fantasize about her coming over to my place, me showing her my songs, she being completely won over by it and it being hot and romantic

I know it’s stupid, I know it’s needy but it just happens, and the usual answer would be “have a life outside of her, have hobbies, have your own life”

But I ALREADY DO

I’m a musician, videographer, aspiring bodybuilder, movie critic and fanatic and am just starting my vinyl and blu-ray and steelbook film collection, as well as having lots of friends, being physically active, hiking, clubbing, getting into photography, etc

But my mind just creates these stupid scenarios and I notice it but I can’t help it

Right now I’m in the middle of it, I have a date with a baddie on the weekend, we’ll meetup, I’ll give her a gift from my recent trip (it makes sense in context, I’m not just showering her with gifts, and it also cost me like $2 USD lol) but my mind is creating this stupid scenario about what lines I’ll say, how she’ll love her gift and how we’ll get drinks and have passionate sex and conversation afterwards

I want it to stop, I want to chill and just live in the moment and stop these fantasies from forming, it’s not like I don’t have a life or passions, so what else can I do?