Ask for Instagram/number?

Pyroftw3 · 2024-10-02T06:26:47+00:00

women say that so the creepy unattractive guys don't approach them.
If you overthink about bothering her or annoying her you have the wrong mentality.
By approaching her you offer her a chance to get with you, if she not down with that, thats on her and you move on.

Id recommend when you approach a girl actually have a short convo with her to see how you vibe with her, also you can give her your number instead of getting hers and tell her to text you so if she does text you she is obviously interested. I usually get whatsapp or something like that, i dislike instagram

norwegiandoggo · 2024-10-02T06:28:04+00:00

Maybe these two examples will illustrate the difference:

Guy walks up to girl. Is very direct and says "hey I thought you were beautiful and wanted to come say hi". She's clearly uneasy - but he just plows ahead and engages her with some questions. Then he quickly asks for her insta.

Note: he is not caring about her signs of discomfort. He plows. He's direct. He's pushy. And fast. There's a high likelihood she will give him her account just to be left alone

Guy starts a casual conversation with a girl about something happening at an event. He's asking her for some advice. She seems comfortable and smiling right away. He asks her what she's up to and she says she's about to get coffee somewhere. He tells her he's waiting for a friend and if she would like for him to join her. She agrees and they get coffee and talk for 20 minutes. After a while she's laughing and giving clear signs of interest. They talk about doing this again (getting coffe) sometime and she's again enthusiastic about it. Then they exchange insta or number or whatever contact info is common in that cultural pocket.

Big difference right? It should be damn obvious that scenario 2 is wayyyyyyy more likely to lead to a date. And that she's happy to exhcange her contact info in that scenario. The main difference is that in scenario 1, the guy is pushy. And in scenario 2, he isn't.

321sleep · 2024-10-02T15:50:42+00:00

Learn good game, approach often, calibrate as necessary. OP sounds very outcome dependent. It’s like fortnight. Some rounds you get blown out early. Others you get the victory. The real enjoyment comes from playing the game and improving. Who fucking cares if you crash and burn. There is always another round. Always another opportunity. Learn to love the game and you’ll get better at it.

Electronic_d0cter · 2024-10-03T05:21:59+00:00

You're overthinking it, if you approach in a crowded place or even just somewhere with a decent amount of foot traffic most people aren't going to immediately think you're a creepy rapist, and if they did they'd just get someone around to help rather than give you personal details

You're just putting the ball in their court, making it very easy for them to progress things and get to know you if they are at all interested but you cant expect everybody to respond positively, they might have a boyfriend, some hangups from childhood or you might be the problem whatever it's all data that can be learned from

Title	Ask for Instagram/number?
Author	HeatDroid
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	October 2, 2024 3:38 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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