Refusing to go a smoke

PemBayliss · 2015-08-04T20:46:24+00:00

No you should not smoke. That's not who you are. It's not something you do.

Do not change something about yourself just to be with some girl or girls.

If the girls are going for a smoke, then they're going for a smoke. Who cares what they do?

And for the love of God, DO NOT explain. Don't explicate, don't say you're a nonsmoker, DON'T SAY ANYTHING. If you're offered a cigarette, decline it with "no thanks" and don't explain any further. You don't owe anyone any explanations for being a nonsmoker. If the girl doesn't like you because you're a nonsmoker that is HER problem.

Sounds like you'd want to go where the girl goes -- if she's going for a smoke you want to follow her out there, probably to mate guard. Don't do that. Don't mate guard. Makes you look beta.

Short answer: Don't smoke just because she is or because it's offered. Don't follow the girl outside and stand there while she smokes. Just let her go indulge her addiction.

Metalaggeddon · 2015-08-05T01:09:23+00:00

This isn't about should I smoke or not. This is really about compromising yourself.

You're actually asking "should I sacrifice who I am in order to get a leg up on pussy?"

Fuck no. Never compromise yourself in a situation. No way. Compromising is fine, but compromising yourself at a chance of something is not. That's simply self destructive and weak.

Now I'm not a delusional guy, who believes that you should just "be you" regardless, that only works if you are someone who has a lifestyle and personality that doesn't compromise yourself. "choosing to be you as a beta is compromising yourself, choosing to build a lifestyle of improvement and value is not."

I'd say don't. Just my 2c.

MentORPHEUS · 2015-08-04T18:27:34+00:00

Once I quit smoking tobacco, the desire to kiss someone who does diminished precipitously.

If you do hang with the smokers, don't make anything of you not smoking; don't even act smug or sanctimonious about it, just be there and mellow.

NO, smoking doesn't make you look cool, it marks you as a tool and a follower. Smokers, especially women, age much, much faster.

youcantdenythat · 2015-08-04T19:48:50+00:00

it's ok to feel superior, just don't come across like a douche bag

And, don't smoke or compromise anything because of a girl. You don't have to. They won't be impressed because you smoke or don't smoke. You're a rock star. You do whatever the fuck you want and they will like you anyway.

Title	Refusing to go a smoke
Author	postimees123
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	August 4, 2015 6:00 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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