Is anyone doing it becuse they think they'll meet their soulmate? Just want to improve your charisma and talk to people? Sex? For me, I think that I'm finding I want (naturally a relationship that I'm really into) is something challenging, stimulating and maybe even unorthodox. I like proving people wrong and proving myself right.

My (26M) intrest in my former coworker/work flirt (29F) is an example of this desire to do shit I know people would tell me not to bother with. She was always coldish over text but in person we jelled. Don't see her in person now and I can't be arsed with that so I'm trying to get her to meetup. She does have a "guy", doesn't seem to be serious, a 6' 7 pretty boy but she naturally spends plenty of time with him. To be honest, I dont think I really care either way. I might ask for advice and opinions but in some ways it feels more like a formality, I'm going to get this girl (consensually 😅), or I'm going to sabotage our dwindling friendship trying.

Has anyone else got to a point where they have to do and say shit like this to motivate themselves? I feel like a drug addiction that's started mixing drugs together becuaee he's bored of crack.

PS, I've never actually done drugs and I don't really drink. I just don't sound like someone that's sober.