M26 here, today I drafted a 2 week notice to leave my 2nd job that I hate. It was a busy day, working my main job, taking my dog out constantly with his stomach problems constantly, and just always having something to do almost. One of my close friends, one who I consider to be a safe person, nudged me in the direction of this decision as well after discussing some No More Mr. Nice Guy activities with him.

There were however, multiple instances I could've told my Fiancé (25F) that I drafted a notice, but I didn't. I don't know if subconsciously I had shame built up that I would be judged or ridiculed over wanting to leave this 2nd job. She's been pretty adamant on wanting me to stay and make as much money as we can for our upcoming wedding but, here's the kicker,

I paid off my high interest debt, and now can save as much as I want for a while with the revenue of my main job. Awesome stuff! But, I never communicated this properly with her, or at least I think. I have a poor memory on stuff like this, it really sucks. But anyway, I know today, I didn't communicate properly with her that I drafted my notice, and intended to hand it in tomorrow morning.

Well, my mother(who has a printer) drove by to give me the physical copy dropped it off while I was in the restroom. Big mistake as she saw the letter, and I was met with distance and "that look" when I got back downstairs. I said "It's about the letter isn't it". She responded coldly, though I don't remember what she said exactly. To summarize though, she told me it didn't matter anyways and more or less tried to drop the topic.

I tried to confront her about this throughout the evening, asking her if she wanted to talk about the notice. She said no. I asked her if she needed help making the bed, she said no. I asked if she wanted to talk at all. She said no.

I've been left with anxiety now about the notice and her, I feel shame that I indirectly lied about the notice to her, and I feel anger, if not that then annoyance over her lack of willingness to speak with me. I feel scared because I don't know what to do.

Since then it's really been one word answers and it's really eating at me. Like, I know I should weather the storm, and keep up a good attitude, but I'm really having a hard time imagining what a healthy male would do here. So any advice or support would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!