Question from a high schooler

willowhawk · 2015-08-09T15:17:38+00:00

Keep it flirty with her. But don't focus all your attention on her. She cancelled and you made a new date so she'll expect you to be all over her. Mix the flirtyness with some disinterested to get her hamster going.

Lightly flirting with other girls in class is a good idea too. This demonstrates you have an abundance and raises your value. You're a newbie so a word of advice. You have to maintain this flirty frame solid. She may react negatively to your flirting with other girls by going cold, unresponsive, this is to bait you to break frame. Don't! Stay amused at her little act and just ignore her until she comes back to you. Might take 10 minutes might take days. Just keep frame and she will come back better than before.

E.g. in work hb8 was flirting with me. At some point I go off and flirt with the new girl hb7, partly to demonstrate value that I wasnt just chasing the hb8, but mainly cos I just fucking wanted to. What happend next is the hb8 goes very cold. Next time she speaks to me there's no emotion shown. Her voice is flat with a hint of disappointment and frustration cos she knows what I'm like. I do a quick test by making a statement turning away from her. She asks a question based of my statement. I ignore.She asks again giving away that she may be acting unemotional but she cares enough to try and interact with me. I give a nonchalant answer. Soon later she has a beta lad talking to her and laughs at his joke. The laugh is over the top. I ignore and carry on being me. Holding frame. As we are walking out of work she sees me and shouts my name to walk with her but I can't. Next time I see her in work she's happy and smiley. I walk past with a normal self amused comment and she makes a needy comment about me going which I capitalise on and we start flirting more.

Basically hold frame and when she comes back your value has increased.

Lastly and most importantly don't mention the date. If you mention it first it changes the dynamic to it being a big thing to you. Instead dont even hint at it. This will get her hamster going wondering why you haven't mentioned it."does he still want to go on it?""why hasn't he mentioned it?""does he still like me?" All these questions will go around her head. She may start to drop hints. Keep frame and brush them off. Eventually she may resort to straight talk. In which case you've now got the upper hand. Now don't brush it aside instead use self amusement. Act like it's amusing to you that she so worried she might not see you "haha aww don't worry you should get you chance to see me this Friday...if your lucky" this with a smirk is perfect with your already confidant/arrogant/amused/abundance frame.

If she doesn't mention the date either. Don't text her about it instead make plans with some other friends. Then when Friday comes around if she still hasn't mentioned it you can still have a good night. Plus if she texts you somthing like I'm running late or not sure. You can reply with a simple. Don't worry about it,it wasn't mentioned during the week so I'm out with some other friends.

Oh and during the week lots of Kino. You need to make up for that beta lack of kiss. Lots of easy ways to do good Kino.

Title	Question from a high schooler
Author	redforemanpill
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	August 9, 2015 2:20 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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