How to escalate with this girl? Need an answer ASAP

TygerAnt · 2024-07-03T04:12:45+00:00

She's giving you mixed signals. She makes a comment about how others perceive you two as a couple, which indicates that she likely perceives the relationship as "progressing," yet she's clearly not comfortable with escalations in physical intimacy since she removed your arm from around her.

Despite these mixed signals, she still asks you to meet with her. This demonstrates to me that she's still interested in you. The delayed response to your texts could indicate that her interest is waning. I suspect she's either uncertain about you (very likely) or testing your patience (unlikely but possible.)

On top of that, your words indicate a lack of confidence. You admit to feeling like you lack "game" and that others have pointed out you come off as naive around girls. You're overanalyzing the situation, which often leads to indecision and awkwardness. You also mention you are talking to two girls. This tells me you lack focus and are potentially experiencing conflicting emotions. You're certainly not making it any easier for her to feel certain about where you two actually stand when you don't even appear to know where you two actually stand.

Women are attracted to confidence. Present yourself with self-assurance. You also have a significant strength going for you, "being able to make girls laugh a lot." That is a valuable asset. Keep using it, and in the meantime, respect the social cues she's shown you. Don't push for a kiss, you're only going to upset her by doing that. Wait until she displays signs of clearly being ready for physical escalation. If you're going to make a move, progress slowly. If I were you and she removed my arm from around her, I would try to hold her hand next time. Try to establish a baseline and ever so gradually push it. If she's not comfortable with the baseline, keep toning it down and trying again until she is.

You need to enhance your engagement with her while minimizing her feelings of uncertainty. That is your path forward. Show genuine interest in her life, ask open ended questions, etc. Also, be mindful of your own response times to her messages. You need to show interest, but you don't want to come off as desperate. Stop overthinking. Stay in the moment. Focus on enjoying your time together instead of whatever "next move" you should make. Your hesitancy in those moments is only going to exacerbate her own uncertainty about you. As a final note, avoid childish behavior. You mention being viewed as "naive." It's okay to have a more child-like playful side, but a lack of maturity and seriousness when it's called for is not something women generally find attractive.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-07-03T12:08:50+00:00

Tell me, Luke, will you also be posting "Need to learn how to unhook her bra ASAP?"

caxmalvert · 2024-07-03T03:32:32+00:00

Insert instances of brief touch, she says something that makes you laugh, you put your hand on her arm/thigh. If you’re out on a date, touch her and point it out. Her hairs out of place, adjust it for her, etc. Openly talk sexually, but not overtly or aggressively. Plant the seeds. Build tension and break physical barriers intentionally. After doing all of that you find a Segway into kissing, whatever works well for you. One I like is just staring at the other person with desire during a break in conversation. Silence usually prompts a question like, “what are you looking at?” Or, “why are you looking at me like that?” And say “I’m thinking about how much I want to kiss you right now.” I think you can figure out where it goes from there.

Title	How to escalate with this girl? Need an answer ASAP
Author	parasbansal47
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Comments	5
Date	July 3, 2024 3:03 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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