Can general interaction be a sign I'm not as unattractive as I think I am

aFalseSlimShady · 2024-07-15T00:24:57+00:00

Whether it is or isn't, take it as one. What you're lacking isn't attractiveness, it's confidence.

EDIT: I mean yes OP it means you're not as unattractive as you think

Thierr · 2024-07-15T06:24:31+00:00

Most people are mediocre. You probably are too.

The way you become attractive is through confidence, self worth, and having an interesting life and personality

GymBroTRT · 2024-07-15T15:49:44+00:00

I will let you on a secret. The only thing that seems to consistently align in terms of success with women is how satisfied I feel with myself. The more satisfied I am, the more women seem to want me. The less satisfied I am, the more they treat me like I’m invisible.

Timely-Quantity8807 · 2024-07-15T08:54:02+00:00

Dating and relationships are about adding to each other's life, so if you're not satisfied with yourself and confident with who you are, it's going to be hard to convince potential partners that you're worth investing time and energy with.

Dating is unlikely to make you feel better about yourself, but getting rejected or bad experiences will inevitably further impact yourself self-esteem if it's low. I'd recommend first working on yourself and your confidence. Take college and the large social opportunities to work on those skills.

Keep going to events and try interacting with strangers, even if it feels awkward and uncomfortable, eventually it will go away once you're used to it. If people are making an effort to interact with you, you're probably not as "socially awkward" as you think.

If you don't know how to interact, the key is to exactly what people does: asking questions. People like being asked about themselves and it denotes interest. It doesn't have to be overly complicated, keep it simple like 'what's your name','what are you studying', 'who do you know at this party/how are you enjoying this event so far?'.

Then the conversations should keep flowing naturally. Keep in mind that it might take trial and errors, in finding the right balance in asking questions to start conversation and not turning it into an interview. But also that's not everyone is not going to click and that it's perfectly normal.

Sitting with the discomfort of awkward conversations or silence will also be part of the process. Even when your social skills you'll still experience those situations, but you'll much better at handling them and not take it personally.

If you're not confident with your looks, try to wear clothes that make you feel great when you goes to social events. Do your hair, use mosturizer for your skin, wear a nice cologne that makes you feel confident. Caring for yourself in simple and effective way will help with confidence and put you ahead of a lot of guys.

Take this advice from someone who was extremely reserved and anxious in college and now works in Sales and has to interact and try to connect with a wild range of people on a daily basis.

No-Preference8767 · 2024-07-15T15:13:41+00:00

Yeah a lil bit. It means you're not disgustingly ugly. I would say it mostly means you don't have threatening body language. In my experience people aren't as shallow when it comes to general interactions as they are with their sexual partners. It takes a tremendously ugly person to have trouble getting people to generally interact and even then I would attribute it to body language for the majority of them.

Hypnotic_John · 2024-07-19T00:45:13+00:00

Listen EJ, sounds like you are a charismatic guy that dosent realise it (people come to you)

But thats not the reason I commented. I understand that you (maybe) dont feel worthy for dating and flirting and I think we all would think the same in your position. Relax for a moment and realise: If you start only when you think your attractive, rejections will destroy you.

When you start now , you will build your confidence make mistakes when you think your not "that guy" and it will be mentally a better move! Or in seduction words "your inner game will be CRAZY good"

Embrace the rejection and better yourself with each one!

Title	Can general interaction be a sign I'm not as unattractive as I think I am
Author	EJcrusader
Upvotes	10
Comments	9
Date	July 15, 2024 12:07 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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