Me (26m) and my wife (28f) have been together for about 8 years. Lot of issues with communication and arguments. She was verbally abusive and (sometimes) physically, (slaps, punches, ect.) I have had mental health issues for a long time and attributed this to the reason we had so many issues. However I started therapy and went for 4 years, once I started getting better I tried using what I had learned in therapy and she turned it all against me. Acting like I was some holy person because I went to therapy. Every argument, communication error was something about me needing to bring it back up to my therapist about how I acted/reacted. Finally I had enough and last year I left for a month to do a trial run. I felt free, I was truly happy and actually taking care of myself for the first time in years. Then I came back early at her behest. I did not want to return so early but I felt like I was pressured into it. Things did get tremendously better for a minute, then here lately it's been back to arguing and I honestly just want nothing to do with her at home. I love her very much but I just am tired of feeling like everything I do is wrong so I'm just giving up. I just don't know how to make the decision to either take care of myself or stay because I don't want to hurt her. Thanks for listening to me vent sorry it's so long. Any advice is appreciated.