I was remembering this the other day and thought it would be the perfect illustration of how to act, and how not to act. This was back when I was in school, and I knew nothing about game. This will be a story about 2 girls, one I will call C, another I will call J. Both were very pretty, solid 8/10s.

I had some classes with C. I knew her boyfriend from other classes, so out of respect for him I never really made a move, and I wasn't super into her, only had a passing interest. Because she was the only pretty girl in the class, I would occasionally spend some time talking to her and flirting with her. I would never talk to her for very long. Just stop by for a minute, tease her a bit, and then leave. I enjoyed playing with her hair because it was very pretty. She would always tell me to stop, but I could tell by her tone and body language that she wasn't serious, so I never really stopped. Everytime I would see her I would just playfully swat her hair with my hand as I walked past. I didn't even realize this was skillful flirting at the time, I just thought I was being funny. C was very into me. Obviously had a crush on me. I never made a move because I respected her boyfriend, he was a solid guy. She was definitely more attracted to me than him though. She was really into art, I've seen some of her artwork from that time that I think was made about me. She still stalks my social media to this day.

J was a girl that I just saw and cold approached one day, which was very out of character for me. I pretty much never cold approached. I was immediately very into her. Got contact and started texting her. I was very complimentary, honest, open, and straightforward. I wanted a relationship with her, so I treated her with respect, which I THOUGHT is how you're supposed to treat women. She quickly became very cold, I became clingy, she lost interest, and ghosted me. Then I said something rude and she blocked me. At the time I didn't understand women at all. I was very confused and hurt. Now I have a better understanding of women because of these 2 experiences,

Here's what I learned. Women HATE when a man cares about them, shows genuine interest, treats them with respect, is honest, and takes them seriously. No matter how attractive you are, her pussy will be as dry as a desert. Women LOVE when a man is only mildly interested, doesn't take them seriously, doesn't respect their boundaries or opinions, doesn't care about her, etc. All of those things turn them on. Everything that your mother told you about how to treat women is wrong. Everything that society tells you about how to treat women is wrong. Women only want to be treated with respect by ugly men that they would never fuck. Women do NOT want to be treated with respect by men that they are attracted to. Being a "nice guy" and "respecting women" doesn't get you anywhere sexually. You have to kind of be an asshole, but in a playful way. Not in a straight up mean way. You have to show only a mild passing interest. Any more interest than that and she will get the ick. Basically treat women like they are just an object that you like to play around with sometimes. DO NOT treat them like an actual human being, they hate it. I think this is because of their incredibly low self-esteem. They see themselves as trash, so if you treat them like gold, they get grossed out. I'm sure this doesn't apply to ALL women, but it definitely applies to the majority of feminine, high estrogen, heterosexual women. Food for thought.