Good day to all! Please excuse my grammar if there's any. I will take my story short as much as possible. I'll share my experiences why it ended up this way.

We are married for 10 years. We met in the same company we are working with but we are in a different department. We dated few times and then have sex and we are officially GF/BF. After 9 months we decided to married. Because i always ended up on my previous relationship almost 2-3 months only. Make it short she's the longest so that's the sign i've been looking for and she wanted to be married too and have kid.

Fast forward, we married after 9 months of GF/BF and we live together for almost 3 years. After that at last I get her pregnant. Before her labor we decided to get back to our home country. A year after her labor she went back to the country we were working for. But for me I already resign of i left the company just to accompany her on her flight and i looked for the jobs in our own country so thag i can look our kid. But after a few months she went back. She left the company because of homesickness. She misses us too much.

Fast forward again and the pandemic comes. Recession comes and can't find jobs on that time. But luckily she found a job because of medical background. I had no choice but to look for our kid because its hard to look for a babysitter because of the restrictions and stuff.

Another fast forward. Its been 6 years since i've become a houseband. And just few days she confess that she had a relationship with other man whom she met during pandemic days. She confess that she was the one who made the first move. Few months ago she was always going out with her friends sometimes she was going home almost dawn. For me i don't mind just give me some restday for my me time. I didn't know or i don't have any idea that they are having an affair also sex affair. She just confeses it few days ago when I wake up. I was like what the hell is happening it doesnt sink in whats going on. What i did is I went to my mother and told her what happened. My mother just gave me some advice but she doesnt want to get involved.

Same on that day I contact my female long time friend and tell what happened. She's shocked of course! Because right now she's a single mother and she went the same experiences before what I was going through. Actually to tell you honestly we are seeing each other lets say 2 to 4 times a year eversince I went back in my country. Most of the time when we see each other we bring our kids and they play together. But its only a secret and its only for a limited time so that I can see her again. To be honest I like her 15 years ago but I don't have a proper answer if she was rejecting me. Because on that time there are many suitors and I just give way to the others and walk away and apply for a job in other country.

Back to the main topic: My wife and I talk about our marriage. I want some explanation why did it happened? Whats the reason? She answer me that 3 years ago her love for me fades away and she's happy with the other man. But she told me that they broke up. And my question is, what are you thinking the time you having sex with him, and your husband and kid are in your home. She answer nothing. Thats what I wanna hear about. She let me decide whats the decision because i am the one who are victim. I told her why you did not tell me 3 years ago to finish our relationship and you let happen this. She told me that she didnt see this coming that she will have a relationship on that man. So I decided to end this relationship. She didnt want to leave me but she told me that she's selfish if i choose her decision. I feel very sorry for my kid. She's only 7 years old and she's always with me. So I decided to return to my mother's home and fix some of my things here and sell that i think i wont be needed to restart and rebuild myself from scratch.

Lately my female friend and I chatting again and telling her whats happening and asking for some sort of advice and we jokes about some stuff. I ask her if she's available this weekend so I can tell her what happened or what we talk about like the last time we met after my wife confesses. I push myself a little if I can fetch her after her work. She just answer me in a joke that "wanna drink"? I'm still waiting for her answer if shes free after work or hanging out with her friends this weekend.

I've already send out my tears out when talking to my wife and I forgive her for what have she done and for the sake of my kid. Im starting to move on and continue what i have left since I married. Thanks for reading my story! Good day!