How hard is it not being able to see your kids everyday?

Outrageous-Quail5891 · 2024-08-31T15:44:04+00:00

My story is completely different than yours. I was cheated on and once I found out, she wanted a divorce. You can find my story here in reddit if you are interested.

The wound is still really new. But for me at the moment not being with my child is the hardest part. I almost cry each time I have to take him back to my ex. The child and the child's well-being is my main focus at the moment since he is everything I have left and it pains me greatly that I wasn't able to keep my family united, even though I wasn't the one that cheated, started a new relationship în paralel and requested the divorce.

CaptJaxParo · 2024-08-31T15:40:53+00:00

You're a good dad. My oldest boy has epilepsy and I stayed. I filed but then didn't go through with it. I just figured I would be living in another bedroom until all my kids are 18 and it wouldn't be ideal but at least they would have two parents and be taken care of quickly physically at least somebody could cook and clean and take care of them because while she was in the house she was talking to other men and checked out

Ultimately she filed for divorce because she found the right one on Tinder and then I found out was also dating one of my co-workers. A best friend of sorts.

There will be a point when you know it's time to go but if you think you can fix things or work on things then this is still your chance to do it if you think it can be done.

Is there hope is there a chance to repair the marriage.

If not then eventually it's going to disintegrate but know that 80% of the time you spend with your kids is between the ages of one to 12 years old and after that you don't have much of an influence on them and if you're only seeing them a few days a week then it's even less. Each person has to make their own choice and there will be a time that comes when it is less toxic for you to be gone moved out and him to have two seperate houses so that at least one is stable has structure security and cleanliness versus him being stuck in a toxic marriage with no escape to anywhere else

I would say at a very young age I would miss my kids a lot. But as they get older have their own friends their own things to do and have more autonomy you have to let them out of your grasp more and more eventually and you don't miss them as much because you realize they are living their own life and even if they were with you under the same roof you need to see them less and less and let them explore their friends and their own interests. It's all part of phases of being a parent you are just being shoved into the next phase too soon and rightfully so it feels unnerving. It's a heavy decision and I would not do it without carefully considering everything

Title	How hard is it not being able to see your kids everyday?
Author	stinky_nut_sack
Upvotes	2
Comments	2
Date	August 31, 2024 3:16 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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